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TorsionDifferential t1_iyex6h3 wrote

If it's the only positive thing he says, he needs help, and you don't need to be on the hook for it. It doesn't necessarily mean you should run, but consider that in a relationship you might be responsible for almost all of his happiness and comfort and validation.

If it's one thing he says among a bunch of other things, such as other positive things about you, especially if they're specific to you and wouldn't necessarily apply to anyone who gave him attention, then it's not necessarily problematic.

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Puzzled-Surprise-250 t1_iyeyryy wrote

*Disclaimer: I’m not a man.

This. Does he also like YOU or just the attention you give? Because if it’s not you, one day he’ll find someone he likes and leave you to pursue them. I like when people I’m interested in keep in touch frequently, but I would never word it as “I like you BECAUSE you give me attention.”

I think if you had to ask you already know the answer. He’s stating in not so many words that he likes feeling desired. It’s an ego boost in his offseason. I say run.

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