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GapingYouSoftly t1_j18ssov wrote

I lived in Glastonbury growing up. I went to East Catholic my first two years of high school and then transferred back to GHS. The public school program was far more rigorous and had more AP options than East Catholic by a long shot. My graduating class had almost 20 kids go to ivy league schools, EC had 1 or 2.

It really depends on the student and the school. I have no familiarity with Shelton public schools, but IMO if the student is engaged, socially apt and eager to learn, they'll do well in either environment. I would say most people send their kids to public school before they go the private school route, usually due to bad experiences/poor teachers/bullying/etc. Also it's expensive. EC is about $15,000/year to attend. Totally not worth it if you have access to quality public schools, but that's just my opinion.

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hawt_pawket t1_j18u3jx wrote

Friends send their kids to The Country School in Madison and like it

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Plants_Golf_Cooking t1_j18wdb4 wrote

If you can afford it, go for it. If it would put considerable strain on your finances, then I would remind myself that CT has some of the finest public schools in the nation.

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DarkLamont t1_j18xom6 wrote

Any school is better than a public school.

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daveashaw t1_j19052z wrote

Foote School in New Haven goes K-9 and Hamden Hall goes K-12. My son attended Foote G6-9 and then HH 10-12. HH is a little less intense (Foote is where all the Yale faculty brats go) but it depends on the kid. All things considered, I think the better bet would be HH. The kids at Foote probably think of Shelton as being way, way out in the sticks. Those are the only ones I have actual knowledge of. Fairfield County, of course, has a shit-ton of schools, which may be more convenient than schlepping your kid to New Haven.

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CarlBrault t1_j192p4c wrote

There is no shortage of private schools in Ct. Keep looking until you find what you think is best. What leads you to believe your local public is no good?

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mayaic t1_j193p9h wrote

I went to Hopkins in new haven. Changed my life. It’s 7-12 grade though. Most of those kids came from either Foote or st Thomas’s day school

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DarthLysergis t1_j194omq wrote

If you are a fan of sex and drugs; Choate is a hell of a school

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brokeirishff t1_j1958ju wrote

North Stonington public elementary is an incredibly small school. 6 through there myself. One still KN. moved here because of the school.

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Chicken_Zest t1_j19769k wrote

For the cost of public school and the thought of a 12+ year commitment to paying those tuition fees you have to ask at some point... why not move somewhere with better public schools? The 20k/yr+ that private school tuition costs could cover a very hefty mortgage bump.

Southbury and Newtown are close neighbors and have some of the best ranked school systems in the state.

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SneakySnake897 t1_j19cu17 wrote

Local teacher here: CT has a glut of great private schools. This is partially a reflection on how good our public schools are. My advice is twofold:

1-Decide if you’re interested in boarding. Personally, I wish I had done boarding now that I’ve seen some of what it’s like in a place like CT. Be aware boarding schools in CT are 70k+.

2-If you want a day school, just schedule tours at the 3-4 closest to you that you like the look of. Private schools love giving tours. Since we have so many good private schools, the market drives out the terrible ones for the most part. I teach public in the state, but I’ve mixed in with half a dozen private schools for coaching, PD, friends etc. I don’t really think you need a specific school rec. My advice is decide based on location, price, and campus, and then just tour a few.

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Shellsbells821 t1_j19jay8 wrote

I went to private schools. I told my husband last night that if our kids were schools age now (they did go to private schools BTW), no way would I even think of a public school now. I'd home school if necessary. Much better education in private schools.

Too many teachers teaching their views. Cross dressing. Kids and teachers confused as to who they think they are. (They're supposed to set examples) Just educate the kids in things they need for the world. (Reading. Writing. Math, English and a 2nd language if they're lucky)

This other stuff is nonsense. They'll see the insanity soon enough.

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TrashPandaShire t1_j19mnvt wrote

I sent my daughter to private school for K-12. It's been a sacrifice but well worth it. I'd do it again in a heartbeat.

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Jayson_n_th_Rgonauts t1_j19ncl1 wrote

Go to an actual private school not a catholic school. Avoid K-12, look for K-5 or K-8, it’s weird having 5 year olds and high school seniors in the same building.

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Shellsbells821 t1_j19o8qc wrote

Replying to Jayson_n_th_Rgonauts (#1,010,914)

You learn empathy at home. Unfortunately, we get all this extra unnecessary information stuffed down our throats. Schools are not the place. Sure. Be kind to people. But, kids have enough issues going on to have the extra pushed on them. Schools are not the place.

Hardly a dumb brat. I am accepting of people. Just doesn't belong in schools.

Better yet...send the kids to Catholic school!

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GlamorousBunchberry t1_j19ozy3 wrote

Replying to DarthLysergis (#1,009,187)

I attended a private middle school, and most of my compatriots went to Choate. Imagine my reaction when I found out that a teacher there had been molesting students for decades. I knew that tuition higher than my daddy's annual salary bought some perks, but I hadn't considered that one.

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GlamorousBunchberry t1_j19pv06 wrote

Replying to Shellsbells821 (#1,010,486)

Go ahead -- tell the story about the kids sh!tting in litter boxes. That one always kills me! You right-wing nutjobs are the best free entertainment around.

* Schools actually do keep litter boxes for the kids... to use in the event of an active shooter lockdown. For which they have you to thank.

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GlamorousBunchberry t1_j19q3vw wrote

Replying to Shellsbells821 (#1,010,977)

Ain't nobody learnin' empathy at your home, lady...

* The bit about Catholic school is a nice touch, though! I was bused to a kindergarten in the projects of Danbury about the same time that a young feller name of Joe Biden spoke out for "states rights" and against "forced bussing." I remember specifically how folks were flocking to Catholic schools because they didn't want their kids going to school with no blacks. Ah yes, good times. Something something empathy at home.

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DueSeaworthiness4486 t1_j19q5eb wrote

In general, CT has some of the most expensive and best private high schools.

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eresho t1_j19s80e wrote

I went to one of the worse public hs in ct. my life turned out great but I wouldn’t send my kids there.

Shelton public schools are rated 6-7/10. So you don’t have much to worry about if you send your kids there.

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HockeyandTrauma t1_j19up5z wrote

Shelton's schools are pretty average. 🤷‍♂️. They're big but plenty of good things about it. I wouldn't mind my kids going there. But there's plenty of good private schools in the area if you insist.

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HockeyandTrauma t1_j19w1o3 wrote

Replying to helloworld2389023 (#1,011,593)

There's nothing wrong with that. There are plenty of excellent teachers in the system. Just like every other one. It's up to you at home to instill the work ethic and commitment for your kid to seek out those teachers and be diligent about thier studies. These teachers may not have the same resources as a teacher in New Canaan or glastonbury, but they're still going to do their absolute best for thier students.

That being said, are there some teachers that will mail it in? Sure, there's no profession that doesn't have that. But there isn't some magic potion that's going to automatically make your kid do better at a private school vs a public. Especially on the elementary and middle school level.

Shelton is perfectly fine for a vast, vast majority of the population that lives in shelton.

High school is arguably a different story but you've got 10 years to sort that out.

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Sonakstyle t1_j19xi4l wrote

St. Joes is right there for high school but CT public are the best in the country.

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Downtown_Feedback665 t1_j1a0wl8 wrote

Replying to DarthLysergis (#1,009,187)

This is every private high school in CT, puffield academy dropout checking in here - we had more free reign to do drugs and alcohol than any of my public school experiences.

And I started at Suffield Academy, ended up going through 4 different high schools (because of moving) and by far the worst place to get a well-socialized, well-mannered, well-informed kid is to put them through New England private schools.

Most the kids I went to Suffield with are the same girls that are now doing only fans and boys who never worked a day in their life and think they’re the hottest shit that’s ever walked the earth. Numerous kids I know from the private school system have overdosed and/or committed suicide. Public school as well, but private school kids are particularly cruel, because they generally have superiority complexes built in at a young age.

A couple options still exist - CT does have some of the best public education in the country. I’d agree with OP that Shelton isn’t the greatest.

The academic program OP wants is called IB - or the International Baccalaureate, the high school diploma that if you barely pass, you’ll likely get into Harvard and Oxfords of the world.

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tilario t1_j1a10xd wrote

Replying to mkt853 (#1,010,939)

funny. i actually drove past it last weekend on my way to new york. don't know outside of its reputation how it is as a school but damn it's impressively pretty.

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JohnBrownEye69 t1_j1a352w wrote

I'm not going to try and sway you otherwise, but sometimes the only difference in data or perceptions between (a decent) public school district, and a private school is that public institutions are required to be transparent.

For example, low test scores in a public school are indicative of the fact they are mandated to be inclusive of students with special needs. Behavioral issues may also be present at the same level, but these things are not logged as vigorously and are not FOIable as they are in public schools.

I was once told, while working at a private school, to lie to a parent about their child's progress and to inflate the student's grade to keep the family happy and the student enrolled. Unfortunately, I had to comply since there was no union and I needed the job.

There are definitely good private institutions for sure but the private school I was at was a travesty on many levels, but it didn't appear to be that way from the outside. Just a thought.

Oh and if the school is for profit, don't trust it for a second. Yes. For profit schools are a thing in CT.

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DifferentManagement1 t1_j1a77uc wrote

From Shelton I would look at Fairfield Country Day. It’s probably still a bit of a hike for you but it was too far for us in lower FFC. It’s such a lovely school

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Underarmoury89 t1_j1a87g4 wrote

I went to Kingswood-Oxford I'm west Hartford. I hated and loved at the same time. Few things I noticed and heard about private schools in CT (not Catholic because those are different)

  1. If it's a boarding school it can be difficult to be a day student at one.
  2. It sucked at times to be a finical aid student also I feel like it helped me stay mot grounded
  3. Alcohol, drugs, sex is going to be everywhere at private schools you have kids who get an allowance and don't have anything else to spend it on ... Like at any school it will depend on the kids ECT
  4. Educationally it way better prepared me for college then my peers at school and friends around me

I do think at both and public schools it will be about your kid, their friends and how you raised them.

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joceydoodles t1_j1a98yb wrote

Check out Montessori for the littles. I think Fraser Woods in Newtown may be close ish

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Imaginary-Entrance42 t1_j1asblu wrote

You could also elect to send your kids to a public school in a surrounding town that has good schools and simply pay the tuition to attend. Most districts offer this. It would be significantly cheaper than a private school.

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sean101v t1_j1azpq8 wrote

Replying to helloworld2389023 (#1,014,916)

Got it. Although I will say it’s changed quite a bit and might not be as you remember it. I can’t speak for how it used to be because I don’t know, but now I’d consider it to be a pretty good school system. I may be slightly biased because I work for the SPS administration now, but speaking from my own experience going to school in both West Haven (pretty awful school district) and Milford (very decent school district) I wouldn’t really say that Shelton isn’t really any worse than Milford in terms of quality of learning.

That being said, the most popular 2 private schools that I’ve seen among Shelton students that have transferred are Foote and Hopkins, maybe I would look into those?

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Glittering-Boot-8549 t1_j1b2o4y wrote

So in CT, public schools pay more than most private schools. They have vastly better insurance and job security. If you are competent enough to get certified, where would you choose to work? I don't live in Shelton, but I'm not far away. Our parochial schools around here take the teachers that aren't able to pass the state certification requirements. I was a public school teacher here, and saw a young teacher who failed her student teaching at my school (she just couldn't manage a classroom at all) get snapped up by a Catholic school, making half what a first year teacher got in my district. Another friend worked at a VERY fancy private boarding school which shall remain unnamed. She had an Ivy league PhD, so they hired her for that credential alone, but no teaching experience at all. She was honestly kind of a (self-admitted) disaster in the classroom, and still didn't make any more money than a public school teacher. The truth is that passing the tests, coursework, and student teaching requirements for certification isn't easy, and a LOT of people quit along the way, and then go to work in private schools because that's the only option they have.

I've tutored kids from private schools in the area, and not been impressed. I teach at the college level now, and don't find private school students to have any academic advantages. If I was considering a private school, I would ask tough, specific questions about the experience, credentials, turnover, and compensation of the teachers, and ask yourself if a good teacher would really choose to work at that school. I know one teacher in Shelton, and she's phenomenal. With her credentials and experience, she would easily be hired by any private school in the area. But she chooses to teach in the public schools, and that says a lot.

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DifferentManagement1 t1_j1bavdx wrote

Replying to Glittering-Boot-8549 (#1,015,230)

Having sent my children to both public and private in Fairfield county I can tell you that the private school experience is vastly different. The quality of the teachers has been excellent, but more importantly because they can pick and choose who attends the school - you do not have the endless distractions of students with behavioral problems that seem to eat up so much of the teacher’s time and energy - even at the TOP publics. Class size also matters. I have experienced many excellent teachers in my public school - they aren’t the issue. Culture is another big point but I won’t go into that now.

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mlassoff t1_j1bcio0 wrote

Instead of spending 40K per year in private schools, why not just move to Trumbull or Fairfield…

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thenisaidbitch t1_j1bhg3p wrote

Replying to Underarmoury89 (#1,012,728)

I went to school there too and agree with this! I never went to any drug fueled parties when I went but a few years later my friends brother attended and he’s still in and out of rehab 20 years later. School was filled with coke by then.

Parking lot is chock full of luxury cars- as a regular kid it felt very weird to see so many expensive cars. My folks would never have bought me a freaking Mercedes at 16! I remember one girl got a Porsche and totaled it within a week. It was a very weird place to be after starting out in public school!

That being said, it challenged me in ways public school didn’t. There was too much free time and I got lazy, there is rarely free time at KO and the expectations are high (both from peers and teachers) so it helps promote good habits and work ethic.

I debated sending my kid to a prep school but I’ve heard so much about substance abuse and bullying since I left I’m not sure it’s the right call.

Another consideration is cost! When I went it was $20k per year but other activities were easily another $1k. Can’t imagine how much it is nowadays! Not sure it’s worth it anymore

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gregra193 t1_j1bl42e wrote

Chiming in to say it’s wholly unnecessary unless the price, which could total ~$1 Million for Grade K-12 (thinking of future inflation here) has no effect on your family, and you can keep up that payment for 12 years in a row. Then there’s the cost of college.

Shelton HS is US News Silver ranked. You could move to a district that is even better for less than the cost of private school. They [private] don’t have to provide accommodations should you son potentially benefit from that in the future.

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GlamorousBunchberry t1_j1br2ed wrote

Replying to bladerunner_203 (#1,016,214)

If grammar actually interested you, I’d tell you seeing about the process by which phrases are regularly reanalyzed as single units. In this case I’m treating “facts and logic” as a single collective noun, because pseudo intellectuals have rendered it a meaningless cliché. Thus “so much rice” or “so much facts and logic.”

But also I’m mocking the previous commenter because… wait a minute. Once again, I’m bitten by the asymmetry of bullshit. I’ve already put about 10,000x more thought into this question than you have or even could.

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ProfessionalBench768 t1_j1bx8iz wrote

My daughter attended first St Margaret McTernan and later on Cheshire Academy, she was miserable at both schools because of bullying. Class size is so small and the children love to form alliances and choose someone to be the outsider. They didn’t physically abuse her, they just froze her out and she had no friends. Teachers saw it and were very kind to her but that only made the little lords and ladies even more annoyed. We put her in public school it was the best thing for her, she became happier and made lifetime friends, got good grades and went to an excellent college and grad school. Those fancy schools, helped by oblivious parents, turn out plenty of dysfunctional young adults.

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