Getting the F off social media, stop watching porn and using your phone. You’re not going to “intellectualize” your way out of this mindset from Reddit. Start reading positive mindset books, make exercise your new life, get more sun exposure, and add more value to your relationships. Get off the internet, if you are not intentional about what you are doing on it, it will become an echo chamber of weakness, sadness, and mediocrity, especially if you are a man. When you start to feel better consistently your mind will find natural avenues to provide value and your path will be laid clear before you.