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CAJ_2277 t1_jdbp5uy wrote

That is not necessarily good advice. Certainly not for many people. Those who tend to dwell on their feelings should not follow that advice.

Instead, at least for such people, trying to go about life and do anything but ruminate on one’s feelings means happier days, while the subconscious mind sorts your feelings out.

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LEJ5512 t1_jdd5o7u wrote

Rather than merely dwelling, this advice is about unraveling, recognizing, and understanding the feelings.

Like being upset by rush hour traffic — is it just the traffic, or does the upset feeling come from another root? Is it making you late for your appointment, or does the guy blasting past in the slow lane make you worried about what could happen to the safe drivers?

A lot of stress comes from not understanding. If you can ease your reactions to your feelings, you can begin to observe them, and then eventually understand them better.

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se_nicknehm t1_jdepsed wrote

you're actually talking about rationalizing those feelings (i.e. finding their source; differentiate between different feelings/stress, tring to accept them and deal with them if necessary etc.), which is most likely what CAJ meant

just feeling those feelings won't do this for you

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mmerijn t1_jdcm871 wrote

Dwelling on feelings is often to avoid them. Feeling means being in the moment.

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