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Potatowrath t1_j0d31gv wrote

Say that to neglected children, rape victims ect... Nothing worse for healing then not facing the bad things that has happened to you! Toxic positivity and gaslighting never fixed anything! People need to talk about their problems and see them for what they are not put their head in the sand!

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Potatowrath t1_j0ddz4v wrote

Being anxious and having anxiety is real, but dealing with that is though comforting why you feel that way, not telling yourself that it's just in your head! And having anxiety is a "real" problem!

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DivDude77 t1_j0df377 wrote

I fail to understand the people on this sub. Most comments on ANY post here either complain or hate the post. It's as if they have joined this sub just to criticize/hate evry post.

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RunBlitzenRun t1_j0did9j wrote

I’m struggling to see how this post implies toxic positivity, gaslighting, or not facing negative things.

To me, acknowledging that suffering is internal is really hopeful and liberating: it means if I face the bad things (with the help of a therapist of course), I can reduce suffering and it doesn’t depend on anyone else. Hope is very different from toxic positivity.

This reminds me of this quote from Harry Potter: “Of course it’s happening inside your head, Harry, but why should that mean it’s not real?”

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thewaveishere25 t1_j0dtrd0 wrote

Someone else who gets it! it’s like they expect every little detail of any circumstance ever to be accounted and accommodated for in 1-2 sentence image macros. Sad that r/GetMotivated is one of the most defeatist subreddits

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pinkestblues t1_j0dul9c wrote

Same thought here. Also, people love to take the posts 100% literally and if it doesn't apply to every single life situation of every person on earth ever it's a terrible post. Think a bit outside the box, people. Or just keep scrolling, idk. The negativity feels quite toxic.

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SkittlesAreYum t1_j0dwx7j wrote

This sub is used by so many to cope, and they cope by complaining and bitching that nothing will help them, or this certain post doesn't apply to them and is therefore terrible for everyone. It's exhausting and they need to go somewhere else for their cope.

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U_wind_sprint t1_j0e1m4c wrote

Unless you can convince yourself that you are, in fact, having fun. Then you'll be having fun in reality.

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saevon t1_j0e2v3x wrote

because if you like it,,, you enjoy it and move on, give an upvote.

If you think its shit, and possibly toxic, you want to comment and get rid of it.

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Something like that

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FuckYouThrowaway99 t1_j0e4g5j wrote

It's "etc" as in et cetera. Well done with your inane comment that sidesteps the point of the original post with a bizarre strawman argument.

"What about the guy who got his arm chopped off?!?!?!?" Yeah because that's exactly who Seneca is talking about /s lol

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Greentaboo t1_j0e4yww wrote

Its weird how people are taking this as an invalidation of their personal struggles. Its not.

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palegunslinger t1_j0e69c7 wrote

A lot of these motivational quotes can be interpreted in multiple ways due to your mental state. I feel like if all one sees from them is the bad, then that’s an issue with one’s attitude..

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FilteringAccount123 t1_j0edry5 wrote

Seriously. I glance in here every once in a while, and while I get that sometime it can have a cloying 'everyone is special' vibe, it really seems like people go out of their way to be contrarian.

I have a pretty significant event coming up that I was anticipating a lot, and I actually found this a helpful reminder to take a deep breath and put everything in perspective. So thanks OP!

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sneaky_squirrel t1_j0eewy1 wrote

Yep.

Simulated suffering has saved me countless times from actual suffering.

I am so happy that I can feel dread to anticipate bad stuff.

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M3M3_K1NG t1_j0ehil3 wrote

Yes I have dreams I hate every night thanks

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gummybear904 t1_j0eit4j wrote

Well modern cognitive behavioral therapy is heavily influenced by stoicism and the whole idea of stoicism is understanding that you can't control events that happen to you or even your own thoughts to some extent, but you can control your emotional reaction to them.

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Whiplash17488 t1_j0ejoe1 wrote

This is just a quote from Seneca but Stoicism is a deep personal virtue ethics on how to live a tranquil life with joy.

Its worth looking into. But its one of those things that requires study as well as practice.

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ComicCroc t1_j0ekbr3 wrote

Isn't this image the opposite of the title? I feel like being overly self-aware is what leads to this problem.

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morecusionforpushen t1_j0eskja wrote

I needed this ,right at this moment I saw it. Gosh dang it really hit the nail on the head. I feel completely lost over a girl but I’m so much better off then I think I am. Thank you internet.

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Shower_Handel t1_j0esy8a wrote

Seneca the Younger has never tried a Carolina Reaper

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Destiny-calls t1_j0ezpy0 wrote

True.

Sometimes I've been through this.

I also think that even this suffering can do real growth. If it doesn't completely destroy you first that is.

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Janet0217 t1_j0f0gbt wrote

Imagination is also a reality.

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Tesla342 t1_j0f3476 wrote

I need some self-loathing to keep my pride and foolishness in check.

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the_arkham_sandwich t1_j0f8sjn wrote

Reminds of me of the quote (I think by Mark Twain) "I have suffered a great amount of tragedies in life... Most of which have never happened" or something like that lol

Edit: spelling corrections

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neddy_seagoon t1_j0f9qpb wrote

as long as you're in control of it and it's working for you. The risk to focusing on risk is that the brain doesn't know it's totally fake, and the stress/automatic associations get built the same way as "being vaguely pissed at your friend because they punched you in a dream you had last week".

You can also anticipate positive outcomes, maybe 3-5 different options, to destress. You have multiple so you don't get attached to any of them. The goal isn't to figure out what's going to happen, but to trick your nervous system into thinking it is happening right now, and building positive associations with the topic.

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bl4nkSl8 t1_j0f9wlm wrote

That's the point of imagination right?

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Bicdut t1_j0ffb2n wrote

Probably because the posts are karma farms. A little weird an account with a 2 month post history has 12,000 post and 12,000 comment karma. Same with those ask reddit posts that end up getting read in robot voice on tiktok or YouTube shorts paired with a mobile game to keep people's attention.

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Huxley077 t1_j0fgcg7 wrote

Totally thought the quote marks were nipple tassels...

Was such a dumb thought I had to admit it. Good day

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Eideen t1_j0fifgl wrote

There is a great book, that is related to this, "the power of now".

If you are burned-out, worrying, and so on, I can recommend it.

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DeflateGape t1_j0fmjw0 wrote

It’s a good philosophy, much better suited for life than a miserable philosophy like stoicism. I’m laughing here thinking about all these modern “stoics” downvoting you on their computing devices. The stoics thought owning a cup was extravagant, pop philosophy is such garbage.

Edit: such weak ass people, to downvote a serious comment because they can’t defend their own bullshit worthless opinion. Not a single person on Reddit is a stoic, you are all soft, materialistic, pleasure chasers. Go on, pretend to be a stoic. Maybe you can buy a Cowboy Hat and walk around pretending to be John Wayne next. That’s quality motivation, just run around talking like an action hero based on your misinterpreted fake version of an ascetic philosophy you are too weak to actually try to live by.

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SwoldierAtArms t1_j0forzq wrote

My self-awareness tells another tale... for when we suffer in imagination, we suffer in reality.

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ZoloftXL t1_j0fqpip wrote

We are each our own devil, and we make this world our hell. - Oscar Wilde

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Astilaroth t1_j0fqr0p wrote

Haha I had a guybI sorta dated call me at work all upset because he had a dream where I had belittled him for his lack of education. He was very upset. Mind you, I was highet educated but he was this awesome game designer and I felt very out of his league. Also, it was a dream. I do not control the dreams of others.

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Aliiredli t1_j0fw4yc wrote

Sorry, what have self-awareness to do with this quote?

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The_Celtic_Chemist t1_j0fy33h wrote

"I've lived through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened."

— Mark Twain

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Whiplash17488 t1_j0fyw0s wrote

I think a lot of folks are more Epicurean in their philosophy of life without knowing it. The Stoics themselves borrowed a lot from what their rival school had to offer as well.

I am still in the phase myself on studying the differences between the two more thoroughly.

Seneca himself often quotes Epicurus positively. By way of example:

> “Quite possibly you’ll be demanding to know why I’m quoting so many fine sayings from Epicurus rather than ones belonging to our own school. But why should you think of them as belonging to Epicurus and not as common property?” - Seneca’s Letters

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Whiplash17488 t1_j0g0heq wrote

> The stoics thought owning a cup was extravagant

Can you tell me more on how you’ve come to think that? I understood that sentiment to be the school of cynicism instead.

> pop philosophy

When a real crisis comes and all the one liners and motivational memes fall through the cracks, some people do make it down to the source material because they need more.

> pretend to be a stoic

Even in the ancient writings they acknowledge the “sage” as more of an untenable ideal rather than a real person. Socrates’ name comes up in that context of someone worth looking up to but even he was not a sage. When does a person become the label I wonder.

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Lauchzelott t1_j0g1221 wrote

Even if its imagination it is real for one self. Wish i could change ways.

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Whiplash17488 t1_j0g1jp6 wrote

With deep I mostly meant there is a richness in material to the philosophy from the original ancients that has survived. And then a richness in material that has been written about it since. Including criticism.

> Metaphysical bullshit

Its a wild ride that part. Its also interesting to read how people try to reconcile that part as Christians, atheists, bhuddists and so on.

The creator of modern cognitive behavioural therapy, Aaron Temkin Beck, directly attributes the therapy to the Stoic disciplines of passion, action and assent. And CBT is objectively helping tens of thousands every day. CBT in essence proves that there are parts of Stoicism that hold true even if their metaphysical ideas didn’t stand the test of science.

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maharlo13 t1_j0g2sni wrote

“Most of the things I worry about never happen anyway” Tom Petty

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Oysterclam t1_j0g4d2j wrote

That's why I needed therapy.

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AcctJustSoICanBitch t1_j0g5o88 wrote

>Kids these days. They think they know everything.

-- Seneca the Older

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YesplzMm t1_j0g6c38 wrote

Self-mastery cannot be obtained without self-masterbaiting

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Stokkolm t1_j0g6hyc wrote

Isn't being stoic more about not consuming your energy being angry about things you can't have or bad things that happen outside of your control?

Giving up easily available resources like computers and internet just to make life harder for no reason sounds more like masochism.

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tnfrs t1_j0g7p21 wrote

what does he do for shoulders?

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MeMyselfandsadlyI t1_j0gajrk wrote

No this is bullshit self awareness leads only to the realization that you've been suffering for smth that is not even real making it much more harder to cope with the reality that it is a self condition that you suffer from and that constant awareness on it only leads to more conditioning and that the right step after is to find ways to work against this conditioning or totally interrupt those thought processes instead of being aware that you again were thinking/suffering from smth that is not real or from the past..

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Omaigassa t1_j0gcv33 wrote

Immagination basically is subjective reality

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peter_vienna t1_j0ggbt6 wrote

Said the guy who later cut his wrists to escape political opportunism 😅

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[deleted] t1_j0gqfy0 wrote

True, your mind is your worst enemy.

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TheW0lvDoctr t1_j0gur47 wrote

Just because it's in our imagination, does that make it any less real?

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roxasmustdie t1_j0gur8o wrote

me, every night, crying while thinking about my own mortality

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hoonu t1_j0h5rv5 wrote

While I agree… Today’s tribe of social media users will try to convince you otherwise.

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drsylv t1_j0hbekp wrote

I’m a GP and see a lot of people with low mood. I find the one thing that makes a difference is internal vs external locus of control.

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Whiplash17488 t1_j0iv1pw wrote

The ancient Stoics agree with you, I think.

Stoics do have desires and aversions. Its just that they rationalize its healthier to try to divert them to things they can fully control.

Lets take a tennis match. What don’t you control? How good your opponent is, wether you’re on top of your game on the day of the match and wether you win.

Placing your desire in winning and your aversion in losing would not be ideal.

Instead you can try to be consciously intentional about placing your desire in putting in training a couple of times a week, eating healthy, and intentionally trying to play the best possible game ever.

“I lost and this is the worst thing ever” becomes “I lost but I’m proud of the effort I put in and losing to a better opponent is a reasonable way to lose”.

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thisismyaccount3125 t1_j0jc4ts wrote

I may be wrong, but I don’t interpret it that way. I still need to look into it further, but my interpretation is that it’s a certain level of detachment from the external world. You assume it’s the literal detachment to things that make you feel good, but I disagree. I think it’s a detachment from what you think it means and recognize things for what they are. A pair of Jordans mean a lot of things - status, a particular taste, money. But at the end of the day, it’s still just a pair of shoes that will either be worn and used like other shoes or displayed as decor. That kind of detachment.

You can still appreciate things when detached this way. You’ll appreciate different things for different reasons than before; life doesn’t just suddenly start sucking if you’re a stoic in the Senecan sense.

I think. Like I said, I need to look into it further.

update: I looked into it a little bit further and holy hell dude, stoicism is lit af

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