When we are learning, we are LEARNING. That is not fake. So choose one thing at a time to learn and grow in. Then authentically work on it with grace and forgiveness. New ways of being take a long time. Life habits are worth shaping, and you are not faking it. You are learning it. You can feel really great about that! And keep in mind, if you really want grow in an area, that potential is already in your heart. It is real and a part of the authentic you even if you have not mastered it yet. And forgive yourself for your shortcomings. Name them. Forgive them out loud in the mirror. Forgive yourself so you can bless those around you more.