So by the the language you use I think I know what the problem is because I had/have the same one. You're living your life for other people and not yourself, you want to get a girlfriend so you're doing the things that people tell you you need to do to get one. But that choice isn't for you it's for them, it's changing yourself into someone you think others will like. But that's not the answer, you're putting the responsibility of your happiness onto other people and as you've seen few will take on that responsibility. The deeper implications of this are that you right now aren't good enough, aren't attractive enough, not smart enough etc. How do you expect to make positive changes when you don't trust the person making the decisions? You need to take responsibility for your happiness yourself. No one will ever care about your happiness as much as you will because you are with yourself every second of every day. So you need to look deep inside and find out what your values are, what is important to you, what makes you happy, and seek out opportunities to grow in those areas. Once you grow in those areas you'll find others who think and feel the same way about stuff, this will lead to friends and partners. And those relationships will be all the more meaningful because these things are a part of YOU, they like you for YOU, which is what we all want. So don't worry about a partner right now they won't fix your problems, that's another deflection of responsibility. Funnily enough the path to change is accepting who you are and your current situation, and taking personal responsibility for it. It's not resigning yourself to always being the same person, it's giving yourself the time and space to try things out and make mistakes and have that be okay. So take care of yourself because self care is self love. Start with the objectively important things if you're looking for a place to start, hygiene is important, physical fitness is important, mental health is important. Then work on finding yourself, find out who that person is and love that person. When you're living the life you have chosen others will see that and respect it, that's what will get you a partner. But more importantly, it'll give you the life you've always wanted