“Don’t do this!” or “Do this!” has never worked for me. For example, when I dislike my mother-in-law, even if someone says “you must love your enemy,” how can I?

However, when I understand her life and become compassionate with her, I can learn a kind of psychology from her and I can thank her for giving me a chance to study firsthand psychology, and then I can work harder to become a better person who even can love my enemy.

Appreciation and Love naturally occur when we try to learn from others. I can’t memorize those many imperative forms either because my life would become too complex to enjoy.