>It took me a long time to learn how to be assertive without sounding aggressive.

Same. Also, as you said set boundaries is an important thing because (some) people will not hesitate to set them for you.

This exactly reflects how my day was. Felt like every movement was as through water, slow and heavy, and everything being seen through a foggy and dull lens. Was beating myself up this morning and felt down for many (some seemingly insignificant) reasons. A lot of my negativity stemming from comparisons with others, not in a constructive kind of way. By around lunchtime I just told myself that ”it’s ok” to feel this way. I’m here and that’s all there is right now. Made the dishes. ”Good work!” Cooked a meal. ”This was delicious!” Studied. ”Proud of today’s accomplishments!”

We should celebrate what we are and do in the ”now” and practice acceptance of what is and what may come. You are enough and you are worthy of love. Most of all, you are worthy of giving it to yourself.

Thank you OP for this post.

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One of the first things I tell people who are depressed is to stop talking bad about yourself. A lot of people do it as a joke or not too serious, I don't care, stop it! You're not an idiot for making a small mistake. You're not dumb because you forgot your keys. You're smart, you're talented, and you should treat yourself like you deserve.

I don't need them to like me.

so true

Confidence : The feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust.

Start with one productive thing each day that improves your life. People will come and go, but when you have a healthy mind, you will more likely attract healthy people.You are worthwhile. You are someone that people will want to hang out with. You just have to be patient and wait for a true connection with someone. You will know when you truly get along. New job, new people. New living place, new neighbors. New hobbies, new interactions with likeminded people. I really hope this helps even a little bit.

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I freak out because I want to make sure to recieve the maximum benefit.

I know I had to redact some previous taxes and I'm scared to do that too.

Kind of. In my eyes, as a salesman, I very much care what the client thinks.

So I have to approach a situation knowing that they will like me, not "if they don't oh well"

Just my perspective though

Confidence is not thinking about either of those things.

Just make an honest attempt to do your best and the IRS will help you figure it out if something is wrong. Idk why people freak out about it.

They’d probably make even more jokes about my ego.

Confidence is not caring what others think

I interpreted this as thoughts before doing something. I mean, after the fact, if they don't like you, they don't like you, lol.

Edit: "I'll be fine if they don't", shows a level of doubt in your abilities, so to me, that's still a lack of confidence. I would say that's more of perseverance.

I'm down and have been wanting to find a group to do this challenge for years. YouTube is the great hidden scourge on our time.

You can have confidence in a situation where no one likes you and you know they don't.

I have been that person for 20+ years and I’m tired. Someone else’s turn

Don Cormeone

Correct. Never said it wasn’t true bro life is a constant struggle, some highs, then you die.

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It took me a long time to learn how to be assertive without sounding aggressive. Because I like to keep my resentments to myself, when I finally speak up, it typically comes out a little more intensely than planned. Learn to set boundaries early and hold people to those boundaries. I promise it is possible.

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I don’t have a dependent personality type, I am a very independent person. I keep to myself entirely, do everything myself, I’m 100% financially independent and I don’t ask anything from anyone and don’t even share how I feel with people. I don’t think I could be more independent if I tried.