#NO NO NO NO NO

Keep the abuse secret? Are you serious with this shit?

No. Long before you found this relationship you had your friends and family. They care about you. You should absolutely feel free to get outside opinions whenever you want. Relationships aren't perfect. Everyone knows this. But trying to keep everything a secret is a great way for things to get real fucked up.

If there's something about your relationship you feel like you can't tell your close friends or family you need to REALLY think about why that is.