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returnofGorgorokh t1_iydcbo9 wrote

If i dont want that...I DONT WANT THAT

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TogarSucks t1_iydjggc wrote

When I was younger I was frequently forced to have my picture taken when I wasn’t comfortable with it. Now I have a lot of anxiety around having my picture taken because of that.

Want people to be more okay with participating in things that make them uncomfortable? Don’t demand, force, or guilt them into it.

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Thereisnopurpose12 t1_iye1c55 wrote

Ay parents be forcing children to do a lot of shit and then they'll ask "why do you rarely come visit?" It's because I've had enough of you all lol

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Ruskyt t1_iydu278 wrote

For real.

I hate being in pictures. Respect my boundaries.

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chrisisbest197 t1_iye14za wrote

I guess fuck your friends and family when you pass then

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ForceOfAHorse t1_iye53k1 wrote

If they care more about photos than my well being when I'm actually spending time with them, then yes, fuck them.

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chrisisbest197 t1_iye6ra3 wrote

They want to remember it better afterwards. Photos help with that.

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ForceOfAHorse t1_iyeetmv wrote

Great. And I want to spend quality time now. Focusing on meaningful conversation instead of taking photos helps with that.

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Gaodesu t1_iye9he6 wrote

Obviously. But when you’re treated like shit and then forced to take a photo because “that’s what family’s do” or “you’ll put up with this if you love me”. Then I could care less about what you have to remember me.

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BitchesLoveDownvote t1_iye2fin wrote

So entitled.

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EvadesBans t1_iye6k1r wrote

Yeah, it's entitled to have boundaries. Meanwhile, thinking you're entitled to pictures of someone else against their wishes is definitely not entitled at all, yeah? Everyone knows that blatant double standards are not entitlement at all.

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Deadlock240 t1_iye8s2b wrote

I think you missed who they were calling entitled.

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Tripsy_mcfallover t1_iye7n21 wrote

It's not about the photo. It's about people having the ability to remember your face, your mannerisms, your essence after you are gone. Because memories fade.

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returnofGorgorokh t1_iye9rar wrote

Nah, social media creates narcissist people who lives watching itself, and aware of likes and external aproval. Fuck that people, im not like them. I dont like feel bad, to others feel ...good, in control, egocentrical behaviour. Pd im not english speaker

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Smash_Gal t1_iyenztv wrote

How would you feel about actual photographs? Like, a physical picture, not a digital one placed on social media.

I can totally get someone being REALLY apprehensive about having their picture taken, in the same way that nobody wants to be video'd on someones phone. It sucks, and sometimes you really just want to have your privacy and other people's feelings be damned, here.

But I remember in my childhood having a photo album of family members - some of which must've passed away when I was an infant. It was nice to have a face to a name, and have my family tell me "Well, that's your grandpa/grandma, and that's your uncle." It was nice to see them when they must've been an important part of people's lives, you know? Like, I never knew them. But I could tell it mattered to my mother and father.

Totally get not wanting your picture taken. But it never hurts to have at least one nice one for family to remember you by.

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