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Fickle_Broccoli t1_iyems24 wrote

Reply to comment by CedarWolf in LPT: You know those people in the news that make you cringe? The people that shouldn't have the platform they do? Stop talking about them. Stop clicking on them. Swipe past them. by 4ninawells

What is a good response to that sort of speech?

I keep thinking of this joke my FIL made that was insensitive to LGBTQ+ community, and I had no idea how to respond. I just stood there, dumbfounded. I don't think he actually has any distaste for the community, I just think he gets spun up my the "woke community." I have no idea what I should've said in that situation.

I know ignoring it allows that speech to fester, but sometimes addressing it will prompt people to dismiss you as "soft" or "woke." I want to contribute to a better world but I have no idea how in that respect

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CedarWolf t1_iyenygg wrote

Eh, I'd usually just be like 'That's really not cool.' and then I would appeal to their values, or something they believe in, like 'I know you're better than that, come on.' or 'Your mother would be so disappointed to hear you saying that sort of stuff in front of your granddaughter. Heck, I'm disappointed - I'm expecting you to set a good example.'

Generally speaking, when you want someone to improve their behavior, an appeal to their morals is usually the way to go. It's like saying 'You're not living up to your standards right now, are you?'

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