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GMonet4Eva t1_jegx1zk wrote

Reply to LPT: Distancing yourself from people can be one of the healthiest choices you can make. by incredibleinkpen

I had a childhood best friend become increasingly mean/condescending/ dismissive to me and always in front of our shared group of friends. Would only hear from her via a text on my bday and I’d she needed a ride somewhere. I started distancing myself and was so full of anger/hurt confusion because I would still see her a group gatherings. Then the COVID lockdown hit and it was such a relief not to be run into her. The break gave me time to not be so worked up about it and I ended up reaching out to her to basically let her know why I was distancing and ti ask why she was treating me so terribly. Hard convo but I think necessary in my case because I was still going to see her as alert of our friend group and she was apologetic and acknowledged her behavior which is as much as I can ask. This was a massive weight off my heart and mind and I feel better about telling her how I felt out of respect for a 15+ friendship. For folks who I don’t know that long- I have always been quick to not stick around in part because of the hard time I endured with my ex bestie.

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Protect_Wild_Bees t1_jegvmzc wrote

Reply to LPT: Distancing yourself from people can be one of the healthiest choices you can make. by incredibleinkpen

Sometimes cutting that connection can also be a very kind and respectful thing to do.

If you know that person is going to hurt you, cause chaos, make you angry and disappointed, one of the best things I think you can do sometimes is cut your losses so you don't keep hurting eachother, or they can no longer fail you.

Had to do this with my father and at the time I did it out of trauma and anger, but I keep it going so in my mind, he never has to hurt me again. he never has to worry about me being angry, totally betrayed and disappointed by his behaviour ever again. I like to think maybe he doesn't want that.

Whether he does or not, I see it better for us both.

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Professional-Cap420 t1_jegvma9 wrote

Reply to LPT Request: Anyone have any advice for dealing with lower back pain? by apeprom123

Core and shoulder work fixed my back pain in a matter of weeks. I thought it was sciatica, and it turned out it was just a chain reaction from my posture sucking and my core not being very stable.

That said, getting an evaluation from a physical therapist is the best move if you can. They can give you a better idea of what you, personally, need to work on and how.

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ChHeBoo t1_jegvgj3 wrote

Reply to comment by ZhugeSimp in LPT: Distancing yourself from people can be one of the healthiest choices you can make. by incredibleinkpen

For me this is about balance and flexibility finding the right amount social interaction for me. I’m fairly (perhaps more than is healthy) comfortable with my own company, although I’m fortunate enough to have a strong support network. How are you feeling about your situation? If you’re feeling isolated what’s stopping you finding others, is it fear/anxiety lack of inspiration of how/ where or something else?

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