Violence against women is so normalized that you refuse to see it as wrong or preventable as evidenced by your claim that men are the true victims here. Yes, toxic masculinity exists and prevents men from seeking mental help, which then results in women dying. He's a rape victim who plans to rape and kill his ex and you appear to be in support of that with your whataboutism. You can choose to help prevent a murder and get this guy the help he needs or you can keep scrolling, but defending this him is gross.