I play with drummers who hear, read, and match rhythm perfectly and can pick out imperfections in a professional record.

I also know some who literally can’t count off something with an anticipation in it, and are mystified by a base three beat.

Like pitch matching, which never comes for some people, it might be something that is inherently unreachable for you. No big, there’s a bonafide trick I’ve taught people:

Turn it into words.

“Boom boom crack shakalaka boom crack.”

“Whaddaya whaddaya whaddaya say.”

“Hey, here we go, here we go we’re gonna go now.”

Its probable you’ll hear those the same way every time. You can use lyrics you know too. It could be a stepping stone to reading a series of dotted eighths and triplets someday. See if it helps.