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csanner t1_jdgb4k5 wrote

And then, ironically, their children being emotionally immature enough that they actually still act like children when they really need to be adults.

And then repeating the cycle.

And as one of those children now an adult, let me assure you that it is a) awful and b) doesn't have to be your destiny

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IamToddDebeikis t1_jdiwgab wrote

Please tell me the secret. I'm 34 and have been in therapy for years (different therapists) working really hard to change and while I've made some major breakthroughs, I'm having trouble with the adult aspects like keeping a full-time job. Health issues contribute but I feel like I'll never be able to get out of this cycle.

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csanner t1_jdjq111 wrote

I don't know it yet, but I'm working through it.

I can hold a job but I routinely destroy relationships. I recently read "adult children of emotionally immature parents". It was really helpful to understand what's going on and why, and using that with my therapist has been extremely helpful

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IamToddDebeikis t1_jdjqbbx wrote

Congratulations on conquering aspects of it! It’s so hard to do.

Thank you for the recommendation.

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csanner t1_jdjrvop wrote

Very welcome

I'm in my mid 40s, it's never too late

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