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Mustang46L t1_iuhpw41 wrote

Reply to comment by Mustang46L in Someone still remembers you as an asshole for something you probably don't even remember doing. by lucius789

Oh, I should mention he didn't tell me he had an issue with me. He whined to my wife behind my back that be didn't like me before she forced him to be a grown man and tell me.

I apologized, he didn't accept.

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MrMing-NaWen t1_iuhqizx wrote

I dunno, based on this I'm with you. It sounds like you were being light hearted at a light hearted event. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone so ungracious and judgemental that they hold a weird, seething, grudge for a year over a joke about something I didnt know was sentimental to them. People need to chill out.

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Large_Talons_ t1_iuhxzxk wrote

I mean we (and OP apparently) have no idea what he actually said. and I know it’s just a hat but if someone you don’t know says something super rude the first time you meet, it’s gonna leave a bad taste.

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spanther96 t1_iuhzxbz wrote

“that’s an ugly fucking hat, whose wardrobe you get that from - your dad’s? muahahaha”

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MrMing-NaWen t1_iujsn9t wrote

Yeah, I mean we're only hearing OP's side. If in real life the guy said "hey this was my dad's, it means something to me," and OP pressed on anyway then I would get the grudge. Or maybe if he said something really, really, out of pocket like you mentioned.

But I mean, as with all internet stories, there's no way of knowing.

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BertieTheBrain t1_iuhyo1b wrote

Well you're only hearing one side of the story. It could very well he was being a drunk ass at an event since he himself admitted he was drinking and tried to use that as a defense of his shitty actions.

He said the dude "whined" to make the dude sound bad. He insulted the guy's dead father and then said he was whining about it.

He said he "apologized", I very much doubt it was sincere since he doesn't even remember nor really care what he did with the way he described it.

I wouldn't want to be friends with this guy.

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Patchyug t1_iui2sdr wrote

"We don't have the other side of the story so, after completely fabricating it based on assumptions, I have determined OP is a bad guy"

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BertieTheBrain t1_iui48ry wrote

nah, more like presumptions than assumptions. i checked some of his posts just now. he says the other guy either ignores him now or is just ignorant. describing how the dude behaves around him now and throws in an insult for added benefit. he sounds real apologetic. (that was sarcasm)

again, i wouldn't want to be friends with him.

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Patchyug t1_iui7bb0 wrote

"I am genuinely miserable and tearing this random dude on reddit down over miniscule amounts of evidence is how I am going to get through the day"

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BertieTheBrain t1_iui7ncj wrote

sounds like projection to me, especially with all your replies being sarcastic quotes. but whatever, you do you, king. have a good one 👍

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Bamres t1_iuhzx7p wrote

I had a similar thing with a friend I was pretty close with, I said something that he didn't like in a group chat we had, not even very insulting from what I remember, but he never told me, or anyone else.

I showed up at a party and he was just not talking to me and wouldn't say why, his GF didn't know anything about it, no one in our chat who I asked could point to anything I said that could possibly cause the reaction.

Eventually he just started talking to me again, never mentioned anything about it. Then he did it again, once again IDK what I did and no one else does either.

I can't say I did nothing wrong because...idk what he was upset about and you can't apologize for some shit that you don't know what you're even doing it for.

But from my perspective, it's not sustainable to be friends with someone who communicates in such a way.

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Mustang46L t1_iui0gpn wrote

Yeah, I'm super glad this isn't a close friend of mine. But now it's just awkward because my good friend needs to decide any time they have a party or go on a vacation if they should invite both of us or not. I'm still generally cordial to the guy who hates me although he either completely ignores me or is outright ignorant. So unlikely doubt we'll be in the same place at the same time anytime soon.

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