bbygodzilla t1_j84rylv wrote
> Kyiv registered 9,120 marriages in the first five months after Russia began its full-scale attack on Ukraine last February, compared with just 1,110 over the same period in 2021.
Wow, that's really incredible. Love endures, love strengthens us, even in the darkest of times.
Edit: damn guys, just let me believe in love!
TheAmazingDuckOfDoom t1_j857t6x wrote
People get married fast so they could move their loved ones to other countries easier. Love is not the primary incentive here. It's same in Russia, people want to leave the country for work and bring their partner with them.
BradMarchandsNose t1_j85a1vg wrote
Also a lot of men going off to war. There’s both the “why wait” aspect because they could die at any day, and probably some military benefits that are paid out to spouses
Bedrel t1_j8589ph wrote
I mean, that and also, living with the possibility of dying at any day makes you slightly more likely to want to “experience everything” before you die
soleceismical t1_j859xum wrote
If they are doing it to protect their loved ones, it sounds like love is the primary incentive.
TheAmazingDuckOfDoom t1_j85anrd wrote
Yes, that makes sense.
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Marokiii t1_j862a0w wrote
Also if you are a soldier and get killed your wife/husbandgets death benefits. If she is just your gf/bf then they get nothing.
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A_Light_Spark t1_j85faln wrote
Love, or human primal instinct.
Remember the baby boomer generation? When our lives are under threat, we flock to procreate.
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12179705/
We'll find out if it's really love in like 5 years by studying divorce rate.
Useful-Plan8239 t1_j866tsa wrote
Trauma often leads to such decisions - marriages and children, because the human psyche needs the affirmation of love and life to survive the trauma. This is what you are seeing.
BanglaV6 t1_j8685li wrote
Yeah, Im sure you sitting behind a comfy chair on reddit would know the psych of people getting married in a wartorn country. Like what. How can you be so sure.
Useful-Plan8239 t1_j869o8n wrote
I got married and had a kid out of trauma. Workplace sexual harassment, retaliation, and abuse. It's not the same as a war-torn country, but the main reason I changed my mind on those things.
I was not in a war-torn country, but I was in a personal psychological warfare with only one target - me. They say it is as bad as being in a war. At least the books I have read on workplace abuse do. The PTSD is comparable as well.
BanglaV6 t1_j87m50e wrote
My bad, apologies. I hope you heal from all the trauma as much as possible. I didn't mean to be an asshat and discount your trauma.
Useful-Plan8239 t1_j87tix8 wrote
I understand. All I meant on this thread was that all we can do is stand against evil and injustice and hope that we find people to stand with us. At the end of the day, if enough of us do it, things will get better. People getting married and having kids in the worst of circumstances is just the human spirit looking for that connection and never giving up on what really matters in life.
mynameisalso t1_j869wyw wrote
I think that's more about spousal benefits. Like people who were waiting for dragging their feet rushed now because of the war.
You heard about soldiers in the US getting married quick before heading to Iraq or Afghanistan I imagine this is not much different.
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CallidoraBlack t1_j884vji wrote
I'm pretty sure death benefits for a partner still require a legal partnership of some kind in most cases. And it sounds as if you're assuming that Western Europe is 'the rest of the world'.
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CallidoraBlack t1_j89g3be wrote
I seriously doubt you're an expert on what the rules are for marital benefits in the entire world. And there's only one area of the world where its very likely that what you said is true. Western Europe.
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cmVkZGl0 t1_j86sj2r wrote
58 marriages a day!? How the fuck is this possible?
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