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satanshand t1_jbaf5gs wrote

Reply to comment by geekonthemoon in Podcaster saves boy and his brothers from being abused by their adoptive father by montanoj88

My experience with the adoption process was that it was prohibitively invasive, catered towards Christians and extremely expensive.

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another-reddit-noob t1_jbaqrvf wrote

would you mind sharing what was invasive about the adoption process? knowing america i definitely don’t doubt what you say but as someone who has considered adoption in the future (cannot have bio children), i’m really curious

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satanshand t1_jbatiiq wrote

Most of the organizations that we looked at wanted to know what kind of participation we had in church. On top of that they would do regular visits and wellness checks. They also would look extensively at your background and financial history.

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ALQatelx t1_jbb8b7b wrote

Aside from the church stuff, isnt that all a really good thing to do for an adoption agency,

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satanshand t1_jbbb6lf wrote

It is, but the fact that it cost more than two rounds of IVF is insane

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KB-say t1_jbbgvbz wrote

Yeah, it’s as much of a scam as it sounds.

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RiceAlicorn t1_jbavw3c wrote

Off the top of my head, some things that I believe can be asked of you include:

  1. Financial history

  2. Extensive inspections of your home

  3. Your medical history

  4. Drug use (legitimate or recreational; prescriptions, alcohol, etc.)

  5. Marital status

  6. Interviews with your loved ones to ascertain your identity and character

  7. Pretty much anything that is relevant to the adoption process.

It's understandable why they have to act like this, but it makes the adoption process very arduous. On top of all of that, adoption is "invasive" to your money (i.e. expensive as FUCK) and even after jumping every hoop you can be rejected. They can't legally discriminate against you, but they can certainly make up excuses to reject you (see: the difficulty LGBTQ+ people or people trying to adopt as a single parent face in the adoption process)

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satanshand t1_jbbbau5 wrote

They cater towards Christians because the majority of the organizations are church based

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