Do you have a day of the week in mind ? Local show / live music might do the trick. Start with a beer or a coffee shop , after you break the ice invite to the show . Distraction achieved lol. Plenty of great underground or local music in the city. If your a liquid courage user or not , I'll be forthcoming in saying I use to great drunk to feel comfortable talking to woman . I find that a Real conversation bout life my goals my ambitions and being able to listen has gotten me wayyy farther. I think my fiancee would agree.