bookdealmaybe t1_iryu188 wrote on October 12, 2022 at 1:26 AM

Reply to comment by FrustratingMangooose in The hidden transphobia in "The Art of Being Normal" by hayzulhay

Yeah, I can see that since you explained it. Idk, I've known the term 'stealth' since I first learned what trans is. I do have a tendency to project my experiences onto other people, so I concede the point that she may not have heard the word before.

FrustratingMangooose t1_iryvxhc wrote on October 12, 2022 at 1:41 AM

Yeah, I had no idea what that word meant until now. I mean, I am glad I do, but I always called those specific people “toast.” Trans ghost. People who cut off ties with their trans identity and live as cisgender people after transitioning. I highly doubt anyone else called them that, but I had no term to describe them.

bookdealmaybe t1_irywdly wrote on October 12, 2022 at 1:44 AM

Well, yeah, but you had a non problematic term for it, which was the point I was initially making. Even if you didn't know 'stealth' specifically, you had a term that didn't imply trans peeps were playing pretend.

Though, I do agree a kid might not realize 'in disguise' is problematic

FrustratingMangooose t1_iryxtqy wrote on October 12, 2022 at 1:55 AM

Yeah, I do not think a kid would know, but that does not excuse the author for writing it. She can omit it and the plot would remain the same, so you are right regardless.