Go to a club for one of your interests consistently

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I kinda got outta the concert/club scene cus I wasn’t making the healthiest lifestyle choices. But otherwise yeah. I was always down for a GD cover band or funk night

I don't think that's what was meant by "club". Are you into running or birdwatching or model trains or TTRPGS or anything like that? There is probably an organization of similarly-interested individuals you can join.

I don’t mean a dance club. I mean if you play chess, you go to a chess club twice a week every week until you make some chess friends. You do not have to drink or do drugs or eat garbage to meet people and engage with your interests.

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If you like hiking and the outdoors, Boston’s chapter of the AMC (Appalachian Mountain Club) is pretty great for meeting people! And if you don’t have a car, there are always people willing to give rides to the hikes. I’ve made lots of friends through it.

Boston social Discord server: https://discord.gg/jzmpywRZkE

I'm on this Discord server pretty regularly — especially during work hours — but honestly my best social experiences have occurred when I've narrowed down an interest and found people with that common interest. With randos it's much more of a gamble of finding people you'll click with.

Alumni Association for your college or University?

Skip the Small Talk is great, especially if you’re social/outgoing enough to follow up with people. I’ve heard good things about Venture Cafe on Thursday evenings at Cambridge Innovation Center (CIC), but haven’t attended myself.

Are most of the people at AMC meetups usually in pretty solid hiking shape? I enjoy hiking but haven't been in a few years, and generally even in more active times I've never been fast, so I would just hate to be the loser holding everyone up (or left in their dust)

Dude we are all burnt out. I don’t find that people bond over work here.

If you google Boston young professional networking there are a lot of events!

I don’t have any helpful suggestions sorry but just wanted to say I feel you, it is so hard to make new friends here. Please share if you find an answer 💀

So I’m actually training to be an AMC volunteer leader, and I mostly lead beginner/easy hikes and walks! There are a few of us who do that. There’s a lot of focus on making sure everyone feels included. (I’m also not in crazy shape either, haha. I just like getting outside.)

That's great to hear, thanks :)

Thanks! This is actually helpful 👌

Thank you for the suggestion. I’ve heard about the CIC yeah, it sounds really cool

This sounds right up my alley! I love hiking and I don’t have a car. Really solid suggestion, thankkk youu!

Really? Would totally be into going on your next hike. I used to go on pretty hardcore hikes in my teens and 20’s but that was ages ago and I could def do with a reintroduction to it lol 😅

Good idea I’ll check it out and see if there are any groups that strike my fancy 👍

Thanks 😊 . I’ve been all over the country and world and have never found a less friendly place.

But so far the best suggestions I have gotten are the Boston chapter of the AMC, checking out the CIC, and investigating the Boston discord. With any luck I can find some folks I fit in with 🤞

Thanks, good luck!! Feel free to hmu if you can’t find anyone and wanna test your luck w an internet stranger. Boston is tough stuff

Omg do you know of any birdwatching societies in town??

Yeah, I think I might 😬

Awesome! The best place to start is the AMC Boston website. There are a bunch of different committees. I normally lead/co-lead hikes with the local hikes & walks and the 20s and 30s committees.

Thanks you! I was looking at the website over the weekend and feeling kinda overwhelmed haha. Looking forward to joining a Saturday hike soon!