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BobbyThrowaway6969 t1_j6mglwg wrote

Well, why wouldn't you turn into your parents? They created and raised you. You've spent your entire developmental stage surrounded by them and their behaviours.

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TrepidaciousDragon t1_j6mod93 wrote

There is still a debate on this how big of a part of this is nature and this is nurture. I do not know much about the nature-part, but maybe there is someone here who can explain that part. However, for the nurture part, when we are born, we don't know anything. We learn by the things we see around us as "scripts".

One sort of script we learn is the replicative script, in which we kind of copy the things we see around us. A small thing can be that you see your parents doing the dishes a certain way and take that way over, because that is the only way you see it being done. From now on that is part of your script. Another example could be meal times, or a certain way of talking.

In your example it probably is also a replicative script, you have seen your mother talking in a certain way, and even if you find it annoying sometimes, your brain is kind of getting programmed to think "oh this is how it is supposed to be".

TLDR: Because you have seen your mother talk in a rambly way, your brain is programmed that this is a normal way to talk and so it is tend to follow that way

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TrepidaciousDragon t1_j6mor7a wrote

Fun side-information that is not really answering your question: if you want to change this behaviour, you have to be very aware of it and correct yourself everytime you are doing it, kind of like you are raising yourself again. By correcting the behaviour you enter what is called a corrective script.

The last sort of script is called an improvised script, which is when you encounter a situation you don't have a script for or when you are curious whether is a better way to do something.

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kevver t1_j6mla4k wrote

It's easier that way.

Otherwise you would have to make up a new personality that's not acting like someone else.

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