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Adventurous_Hour5475 t1_jdjjqf1 wrote

Mass is fine with gay, but not trans people imo. My ftm friend recently moved because of it. He said anytime he goes to the doctor here they essentially question him sanity. Multiple docs. Restaurants will drag their feet seating him if they know. People constantly ask him dumb questions about parts. He said it’s pretty dreadful and is moving back to CA. He didn’t realize how socially conservative a lot of folks here are……he didn’t realize MA was so Catholic and conservative in many ways regarding alcohol, nudity, places closed on Sunday, people still go yo church, the cannabis places are forced to jump through hoops, the conservative manner in which gay folks dressed, and virtually no one gets divorced compared to what he was used to…..what shocked him the most was the ambivalence or even acceptance of all these things. People would say, that’s the way we do it and wouldn’t even try to change things because they seem to like it that way. Even gay allies most of who seemed like Pete Buttigieg clones.

Generally he felt marginalized and out of place here. (Edited correcting pronoun errors)

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pinkrosxen OP t1_jdjl0r7 wrote

maybe ur friend doesn't care genuinely. but. if u meet another trans person they might, even if u knew them 'before.' if u had the foresight to say 'i know my pronouns r all over the place' then u have the ability to go back & edit ur message. It's part of practice & making it less confusing. And leaving a message like this where it comes across as misgendering & then excusing it on a trans safety specific question makes me genuinely uncomfy.

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whooobaby t1_jdk2v0h wrote

Maybe cannabis places have to jump through hoops but is there a place where they don’t? At least we have it available to anyone

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