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warpedaeroplane t1_jed7jlq wrote

Please do not attend a conference in person if you aren’t willing to shake a few hands, and certainly not if you can’t be within 6 feet, if for no other reason than it really isn’t practical in your average convention center.

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Equivalent_Ad1362 t1_jed83vd wrote

I just imagine a bunch of creepy middle aged guys waking around with green looking for women to hug

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ahvoguecahdoe t1_jedbavh wrote

Damn. More of a “pony express” contact kinda gal.

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Apprehensive-Cry-342 t1_jedc80e wrote

I wore the red as I'm absolutely not comfortable with hugging in a professional setting.

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drmariomaster t1_jedclh7 wrote

I feel like there should be a different color for hugs. I'm okay with an occasional hand shake or high five but I don't like hugging strangers.

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Wage_slave t1_jeddqax wrote

Me and my bright red wristband, shit and pants combo are ready for this.

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teeth990 t1_jedenfc wrote

Instructions unclear: grabbed one of each and lit up a joint. Now wandering around the conference.

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feralbones t1_jedouuk wrote

Back in my day the general rule was to (aside from extending a handshake) keep your hands to yourself.

Isn't this how people get in trouble nowadays? I feel like a green bracelet isn't going to justify an unwanted hug misconstrued as a sexual advance.

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MrSkynfloot t1_jedrl55 wrote

Where the “touch my no no square” bracelet?

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Jorcora t1_jedxo6n wrote

Are we becoming more and more stupid? Have we forgotten to read/show corporal expression in real life? Life is not a chat where you need emojis or gadgets to show your emotions.

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lunedeu t1_jedy125 wrote

I like that. I wish everyone would wear this. Red for me. Yellow on occasion.

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Mektree7 t1_jedy58z wrote

When humans are afraid of a little intimacy, we have a problem.

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lunedeu t1_jedy834 wrote

Replying to Jorcora (#2,521,322)

No, but when you have to signal no contact constantly to many people it is best to just say it once and have it respected. I wish no contact was the baseline norm everywhere so I dont have to impose it for others.

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LordJebusVII t1_jedyb6q wrote

Why are hugs and handshakes the same comfort level? I assume this is for Covid but even then you can wash/sanitise your hands after a handshake but not for a hug.

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Fluffy-Edge-6065 t1_jee45ua wrote

I’m ok with a handshake, but I don’t like hugs and don’t like people that pat backs, put hands on shoulder or any other form of social touching.

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ProperOperation t1_jee5dl3 wrote

For people concerned about the hugging: at conferences like these, people tend to go every year and from all over (I see this is a California-specific conference so probably not all over as in people attending from North Dakota, but California is a big state so picture all over being from the north to the south of the state) so this may be the first time you’ve seen an old friend/acquaintance in a while. A hug as a greeting wouldn’t be unheard of or inappropriate in this setting.

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amy5252 t1_jee6c29 wrote

Omg at that point stay the hell home!

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jlm_pix t1_jee7w5a wrote

I was genuinely hoping the pandemic was going to put an end to the whole weird handshake thing forever. I know people who transitioned to the elbow-bump thing and it was always all I could not to say "Hey, you know we could just... not insist on touching each other for no reason, right?"

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girlracer16SS t1_jeed5cm wrote

What’s the color for a head nod “whats up” comfort level

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UNSECURE_ACCOUNT t1_jeegwll wrote

Good God human beings have devolved quickly over my short lifetime

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ThaumKitten t1_jeek7tf wrote

And you know there's gonna be that one guy who just completely ignores the color coding and invades your personal space anyway. :/

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Spiritual-Ad-6412 t1_jeeky9t wrote

Fuck off is this serieus? Handhakes are not done? Hugs not oke fine i like my distance too. But handshakes come on. Handshakes are a universal age old sign of respect and good intent.

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Firamaster t1_jeemz1i wrote

Aka: please tell us your level of autism.

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GuysMcFellas t1_jeengdk wrote

Replying to Mektree7 (#2,528,505)

Hugs from strangers? No thank you. Feel free to stay the hell out of my space. There's absolutely no reason to hug me unless if we're very close.

Handshakes? If I know you, or if I'm meeting you in a professional setting, ok.

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Corgifarm9 t1_jeeobu5 wrote

May sound illogical, but same concept as the old covid rules

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Bluechip506 t1_jeeoe9q wrote

As a color blind person this would be very confusing. I can tell the difference on the chart between the top and bottom color (guessing red/green) but out in the wild, a single color on someones wrist would be very difficult to distinguish. I would just grab the middle (yellow?) and cue off of everyone else's actions.

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inkseep1 t1_jeeoomu wrote

I think I saw a party video with different types of bracelets.

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Mektree7 t1_jeeovje wrote

Replying to GuysMcFellas (#2,529,181)

Very rarely there’s a reason to hug strangers anyway, but I’m a hugger and I believe we need to be closer to each other. I’ve never understood people who are put off by some friendly close-ness, but hey, i of course can respect it

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GuysMcFellas t1_jeepeld wrote

Replying to Mektree7 (#2,529,662)

I'm a hugger with family, and close friends. Strangers don't need to touch me. I'll never understand the desire to touch people you don't know. Seems rude.

That includes putting a hand on my arm or shoulder. Hands to yourself.

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AlreadyBackLOL t1_jeesxfs wrote

People have become this socially inept they need don't touch me wrist bands?

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ElderProphets t1_jeeuup4 wrote

A direct cultural appropriation of the gay hanky code. < /s>

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I_pinchyou t1_jeeuvvl wrote

Can I have a red band for daily life 😅

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Sandwich_dad96 t1_jeevadr wrote

I’m okay with people handshake if with me and hi-fiving me, I just don’t want them hugging me. Yuck. This is r/crappydesign

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leakmydata t1_jeew8ma wrote

Nobody should be hugging at a business conference ffs

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Sweet_Coat7963 t1_jeexqjg wrote

Ok, I think we're ready for that meteorite so we can start over fresh.

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Cerulean_IsFancyBlue t1_jeeznlo wrote

Replying to jlm_pix (#2,523,886)

Physical contact is part of standard getting and bonding for many humans. The problem is when we either weaponize it (handshake grip contests) or when we, once again, impose the “normative” model on everybody.

I wonder what it would be like if I grew up in a culture where men routinely did the air kiss thing to each other or held hands in public as friends. Would it have changed my attitude towards contact and made me more of a touchy person? Or would my life just be even more uncomfortable than it is now?

Anyway. I like stuff like these bands, because it allows people to set their own boundaries in a way that other people can see and understand. It’s also a reminder that when you are dealing with other people, it’s worth stopping and thinking about those things, even when you’re not in the situation with wristbands. Look for cues. Go slowly.

I don’t think we’re going to change some peoples basic desire for physical contact as part of a greeting. What we can do is, normalize consent and normalize respect.

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Cerulean_IsFancyBlue t1_jeezwlf wrote

Replying to SprinklesMore8471 (#2,522,904)

As people, we have social skills and intelligence, and I feel like this is the deploying those in a great combination to let everybody be comfortable with or without consensual physical contact.

It’s also possible that you meant, “I have no discomfort around this, so I don’t see why it’s worth the trouble.” In which case, ok cool. You’re why we have wristbands.

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Cerulean_IsFancyBlue t1_jef0xb1 wrote

Replying to Jorcora (#2,521,322)

People have always signaled through their clothing and accessories. Team colors, mourning attire, flag pin in the lapel, spiky mohawk, political buttons, “rebel” beret, jeans to the board meeting, religious necklace, “I voted”, wedding ring, school tie, MAGA hat, pussy hat.

“New thing bad” + half-ass justification, is no way to go through life.

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Allyxander60 t1_jef1rrs wrote

Omgggggg I need this for my everyday life. It has nothing to do with Covid 😂

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sxott t1_jef35tg wrote

I threw a party years ago and handed out glow bracelets. Green for single, yellow for “it’s complicated” and red for taken. The theme was “Kiss & Tell”. It was fun!

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kie7an t1_jef38zf wrote

Get rid of elbows and swap that to handshake

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anengineerandacat t1_jef6tsp wrote

Need like a one between green that says "I am okay with handshakes, not hugs"... I ain't hugging a random stranger y'all weird as hell.

I don't know you, I don't know if you smell bad and I don't want to find out, I also don't want you touching me in a way you can sneak around and grab my bum from.

#nohugs

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ProperOperation t1_jeffr2g wrote

Replying to ThaumKitten (#2,528,039)

I attended a conference with this color coding late last summer. I wore yellow, and a mask as I was uncomfortable being in a convention center with that many people still. A woman tried to sit in the seat next to mine, in the back row of a mostly empty auditorium that sat at least 500 people, and gave me so much attitude when I politely asked her not to. 🤷‍♀️

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DoctorMobius21 t1_jeffr8e wrote

I am autistic but I’d take a green any day. Hugs are strictly on a mutual consent basis though.

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melanthius t1_jeffu7p wrote

They need a color for “willing to break awkward silence to ask questions during Q&A” And “willing to get hyped when the emcee tries to hype up the crowd with the ‘I can’t hear you!!!’ type of shit”

If you’re on stage and don’t see those two colors in the audience, then just don’t do that crap.

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ProperOperation t1_jeffufv wrote

Replying to ThaumKitten (#2,528,039)

I attended a conference with this color coding late last summer. I wore yellow, and a mask as I was uncomfortable being in a convention center with that many people still. A woman tried to sit in the seat next to mine, in the back row of a mostly empty auditorium that sat at least 500 people, and gave me so much attitude when I politely asked her not to. 🤷‍♀️

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bearslikeapples t1_jeffvq4 wrote

Stupid and idiotic. Crazy someone got paid to do this shit

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Guillaume_Hertzog t1_jeffyxx wrote

And the yellow bracelet is for those who instantely implode after making eye contact with anyone

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anotheroneBUD t1_jefladd wrote

You bubble kids. Holy fuck

Get some them they so no one is left out

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Illustrious-Scar-526 t1_jefnlld wrote

Replying to connorthedancer (#2,528,444)

I had a boss who would stand out near the entrance of the restaurant, right next to the host stand, and lather him self up with a bottle of rubbing alcohol to help him cool down. It was the strangest thing I have ever seen, and the guest tables and the bar were within reaching distance of him. The host table was outside on a deck, in the south, so it got really hot. Everyone would watch, not knowing if they should be confused, disgusted, or just ignore it because he did it almost every day. His arms and legs looked like he was moisturizing with rubbing alcohol too.

But I can't argue that it doesn't work to cool down.

Also, would love to hear the opinion of someone with some medical knowledge on this. This can't be good for him lol

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Meanteenbirder t1_jefovhs wrote

Not uncommon at all especially in California. Went to a conference last month and had the exact same things.

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CranberryMcNuggo t1_jefpghy wrote

Additional tier for butthole fingering.

-but fr, being an overly sensitive pussy, this kind of thing might be really helpful for people who don’t do well with contact, even if it looked to be more of a Covid thing than a social thing.

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ramonatonedeaf t1_jefvvjw wrote

What’s the one for “don’t even try talking to me because I’m mega cranky and not going to respond nicely.” Black? Lol

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SkippySkep t1_jefxq44 wrote

Not great for people who are red green color blind... 🤔

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Few_Explanation1170 t1_jefycpo wrote

We did something extremely similar for a work picnic. The name tags were color coded, and people got to meet new colleagues and old friends. People felt comfortable and respected boundaries. It was great!

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Aztecman02 t1_jeg54jc wrote

Replying to jlm_pix (#2,523,886)

There is nothing weird about handshakes. Humans are social creatures and touching/embracing is part of that. Handshakes have been part of human culture for thousands of years. I think it’s more weird that people need these passive aggressive colors to let others know they don’t want to interact.

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Aztecman02 t1_jeg5k56 wrote

Replying to SprinklesMore8471 (#2,522,904)

Humans have mouths and ways to express their comfort level without these passive aggressive colors. I think this is more of an indictment of social media and younger generations not actually learning how to have appropriate social interactions with others in real life.

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jlm_pix t1_jeg6n3n wrote

Replying to Aztecman02 (#2,546,463)

Whether or not handshakes are “weird” is an entirely subjective opinion based on your personal views and related to how and where you were raised. It’s a little interesting to me that you’ve conflated what is a polite way to indicate a dislike for physical contact with strangers without rebuffing a handshake nobody thinks to ask for ahead of time with a “passive aggressive” way to not interact.

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Aztecman02 t1_jeg8doj wrote

Replying to jlm_pix (#2,546,983)

To me it is passive aggressive and it’s probably an extension of social media culture. People haven’t learned how to interact with strangers in the real world. Somehow humans figured out how to communicate their want/or not of a handshake for hundreds and thousands of years without a color reference palate. It takes something away from social interactions if your body language can’t do the talking and instead you just have some color label to express your emotions/desires.

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jlm_pix t1_jeg9lk2 wrote

Replying to Aztecman02 (#2,547,562)

I don’t know who offended you by not wanting to shake your hand, but I’m not as committed to working out this issue here as you are. So I’m just gonna go ahead and nod and smile.

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SoraUsagi t1_jeg9pep wrote

Replying to SprinklesMore8471 (#2,533,665)

I mean... The wrist band IS communication. Not your preferred method and that's fine. I tend to be open to engage in conversation and a handshake, but I will not be the one to initiate. But I also know that some of the associates that our business conferences are incredibly shy, but since attendance was mandatory they're there anyway. I would really appreciate something like this for them. They would engage even though they don't want to because they're afraid of being rude

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T1S9A2R6 t1_jegb1yv wrote

We live in a society of people afraid of their own shadows. Yay, progress.

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SoraUsagi t1_jegbd0i wrote

Replying to Aztecman02 (#2,547,562)

Not accepting an offered handshake is considered rude. There is no way around that. And I'm perfectly fine with them myself. But there are plenty of people who don't want to shake your hand but do so anyway so they don't appear rude.

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SoraUsagi t1_jegbu5g wrote

Replying to amy5252 (#2,523,431)

Really? That's a little extreme, don't you think? I can want to socialize and be at an event without also wanting you to touch me. Basically what you're saying is "conform to my standards, or stay home ".

I'm perfectly fine talking to people i don't know and accepting a handshake. But I'm also not stupid enough to think everyone is the same way.

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TaKoss t1_jegh0ng wrote

Watch me just take every red bracelets I can get my hands on

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LowProof7648 t1_jegkhss wrote

Wouldn’t have believed this had I not seen the words ‘California’ and ‘Schools’ at the top.

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VAWLTGHOST t1_jegscxy wrote

Goes to conference:

“Sorry I’m keeping my distance”

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artaig t1_jegu1id wrote

Back in the day your face communicated everything needed. Apparently so much screen time has made the art of reading faces a thing of the past.

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KitteNlx t1_jeh31w2 wrote

Jelly bracelets are back dudes, lets party like it is 1999. Who wants to try and make a rainbow?

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