If she doesn't get this out of her system, she will resent you forever. Better to stay quiet & let her go. Let her figure out the finances. Keep quiet & stay out of it, imho. If things don't work out, then it's ALL on her. The more you comment, the more she will shut you out. There are tons of people like her coming to the NYC area & there is tons of competition. They are dreaming big time. She and her pals better have back up jobs to support themselves. But that's not your problem, is it? And don't give her any money or let her "borrow" any money from you. This is HER CHOICE. You need to take care of YOU.- finacially & emotionally........You may fInd she gets frustrated and returns home. Then again, one year may turn into 2 or 3 years chasing that dream or just enjoying the NYC atmosphere. Clearly, she is not ready to settle down & this is a priority for her, not your relationship....The question becomes how are YOU going to handle this? She has already made up her mind.... she is going no matter how you feel about it.