Aight, what part of the SF Bay Area you want your new place to feel like? NJ has some very urban areas and very rural areas, so you're going to find something to do no matter where you locate, its just a matter of how much driving you want to do to get there. If you're looking for something like SF, Jersey City - Hoboken Area is what you want. If you're looking for something more like the Peninsula/South Bay, anything east of 287 is going to feel about right. If for some reason you want that Oakland life, well there is Newark. If you want more of the far East Bay/North Bay, throw a dart at anything in that 30 mile radius that is east of 206 and north of 195, there are rural spots, but its never going to be more than a few miles drive of something urban.