First off, it’s actually nice to see someone come off as so confident. Good for you.

Where are you from in Europe? Bc I won’t really understand what you mean by “conversation style” until I know what country. As someone who enjoys a good, deep intellectual conversation, I urge you to get out there and find volunteering opportunities or sports meet-ups. You’ll find that you meet intellectual people in the least expected places. If you open your mind a bit, you might be surprised by what even the “simplest” of people have to offer conversation wise. Don’t go looking for it - you’ll find it. The more people you meet from all walks of life, the bigger the chance you’ll find what you’re looking for to fill that gap. But you aren’t going to find it at Djais!

I moved here at 28 with 3 kids and cried because the moms were older and “clicky” and wanted nothing to do with me. I joined my local fire department, became a firefighter, and met some of coolest people ever. I started surfing in the winter by myself. There’s pickup soccer. I’m not sure what’s in Middlesex (I’m in Monmouth) but I’m sure you have options!