Submitted by tastethehappy t3_10qyqga in personalfinance
Looking for some outside perspectives, or experience with my situation.
Career at current company is stagnating, raises are only 3-5%, same with any 'promotions'.
We have a kid under 7, and a kid under 1. Live in the North East (expensive daycare, expensive COL).
I have an offer, which pays a lot more than I currently make. This would be pretty game changing for us, particularly in terms of supporting childcare, saving for college etc etc. I don't think that I would get this salary offer elsewhere, at least not without a lot more experience.
However, the office is about 3+ hours away in commuter traffic, and it's only 'partially' remote. I offered that I could do 2 days a month on site, but they are asking to come in more frequently, maybe once a week.
The money is appealing, but the thought of doing 6hrs of driving in a day, once every week or similar sounds like it would suck the life out of me.
Could probably deal with it, but I also don't want to create more burden on the family by creating logistics headaches.
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Anyone got any good advice?
Thanks
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UPDATE:
I turned it down.
Turns out that it would be more than once a week on site, and more at the start.
Commenters had lots of good points about the cost of gas, car wear, time lost to family etc
It hurts to turn down this kind of salary bump, but the cost may have been too high. What I have now is fully remote, and we get by ok.
One commenter made a good point, I can be confident about my worth if I can get an offer like this, and that it confirms what I already knew - that I'm significantly underpaid currently.
At least I'm on their books for for future positions.
Thanks for all the insightful advice.