alexm2816 t1_iydjis8 wrote
As a whole, one's problems often seem insurmountable but when parsed through there is usually a set of solutions that are achievable, measurable, and reproduceable.
It seems semantic but you never use the active tense in describing your situation. Everything happens TO you and you accept 0 accountability for WHY your loans have defaulted, why you're rejected for jobs, why you're in your situation. Certainly bad things happen to good people often but rarely can one accept no liability for the bed they've made. Become an active conductor of your own life and get milestone A to lead to B to lead to C.
You describe no details about what your specifics are and as such no one can help you but step 1 from years of therapy is to get over your wallowing, accept responsibility and decide if you're going to roll over or if you are going to control what you can control/improve. I wish you luck.
OrangeFox88 t1_iydlbv7 wrote
Agreed. I only recently joined reddit, but it seems to me like this community is very willing to help come up with solutions and goals, and, understandably, a lot less willing to join in on wallowing.
If you're ready to actively take forward steps, which often can be emotionally daunting, then we're here to help. Like another user said, the first step is to make a ledger of the past few months and sort it into categories. If you're willing to share, the community can help evaluate areas that may be most helpful to get out of the sticky situation.
You are still young and can work on turning things around for future you.
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