I would highly recommend getting an estate administration attorney to talk with, if for no other reason than to consult with him/her and know your rights here based on where you live. If you stand to inherit about $125k, a one time consult fee or even if you decide to retain, will usually cost less than $5-10k unless there is litigation involved which can exponentially increase the cost. By doing so, you will have someone negotiate on your behalf who knows what you are entitled to which in turn will allow you to focus more on your family and your grieving. If your uncle gives you shit over protecting your own interests, he is not looking out for your own interests.