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ashoka_akira t1_j37nz6s wrote

What if you don’t want to resist? I only resist eating unhealthy things, but am otherwise down for funtimes. Essentially if it doesn’t hurt anyone I will enjoy myself.

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ace_v27 t1_j37ras5 wrote

Well if you don’t want to resist then it’s fine because you’re not holding yourself in a state of dissonance. You do what you want. I think what they mean by resisting or avoiding temptation here is implying that what you’re tempted to do, you know is “bad”. If I am tempted to volunteer at a soup kitchen and I yield to this desire, most people would agree that this is a “good” action.

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SkriVanTek t1_j38ih3l wrote

yeah exactly and this good action might still be bad for you because you have another commitment.

for many people saying yes is a very tempting thing

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ace_v27 t1_j38ktqo wrote

Temptation to say yes is different than temptation to actually do something. If I feel pressured into volunteering my time but I actually don't want to, then if I do it, I will be in a state of dissonance. If I really want to volunteer my time, then I volunteer my time with no dissonance.

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SkriVanTek t1_j38xus1 wrote

you might really want to and you might enjoy your time but you could still be really procrastinating some other thing you should do but don’t want to

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ace_v27 t1_j39ujpe wrote

Sure. I guess in this case “avoidance” would be scheduling your shift after your urgent work is due.

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VitriolicViolet t1_j395c92 wrote

depends on what your temptations are.

i do what i want when i want to, its caused homelessness, addiction and a whole lot of experiences i wouldnt change for the world.

and yet im not stagnant or sad, ive lived with over 80 people in 4 different states (im Australian) ive done jobs across a dozen industries. now im 31 with no debts and im 57kg at 183cm and work my own business gardening (and literally no support at all, i dont talk to family).

ibe done all this by not resisting but by doing what i want (what i actually want to, not what society wants me to want. when i was young i wanted simple base pleasures, as ive gotten older my wants have changed to security and stability, skilled hobbies etc).

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