Submitted by anonymouswoman906 t3_11djid0 in relationship_advice
We've been officially together since mid October. We've only had sex 3 times, all in October. The first time- he pursued it. The other 2 times I pursued it. Nothing since. We've talked about it and he's stated that he just doesn't feel that way, he doesn't feel the need to pursue sexual relations. Which is fine, I felt like I could handle that. He is divorced, but its been a few years and we discussed it at length. He has assured me that its behind him and I believe that. He doesn't pursue me in anyway except to kiss me here and there. He does releave himself semi-regularly. I felt like maybe that was due to a spur of the moment like of thing? Recently, I followed him on Instagram and noticed he only follows 9 people. I clicked on it to see if I was one of them and to my surprise, I found something else. He follows 3 very bimbo type gamer girls. For reference, I'm a curvy lady. I'm not overly fat or particularly ugly. But I'm not conventionally celebrity hot or look anything like these Instagram E girls. I thought it might have been a cosplay thing but every photo was just triangles, straps, baby doll faces, and fake boobs. Kind of tacky if I'm honest. My ego is bruised. Its one thing to not feel the need to purpuse sexual relations. I don't care if my significant other watched pornography or likes this kind of content. But to be into this and not into me- makes me question if he's even attracted to me. Part of me feels like hes settling so he doesn't have to be alone. I've been ignoring this gut feeling about this, thinking that maybe I'm just being an asshole. But I don't know anymore. Anytime I think about this, I feel physically sick.
TLDR: My boyfriend has told me and assured me that he doesn't do sexual relations. However, recently I discovered that he follows E gamer girls that are very revealing. I feel like he doesn't find me attractive but is settling out of loneliness.
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