MckittenMan t1_jaeijcs wrote on February 28, 2023 at 9:24 PM

Reply to comment by Ill-Inspector3071 in I (27F) broke up with my boyfriend (27M) of 4 years after he said he wasn't ready to live with me. Have I made the right decision? by Ill-Inspector3071

Exactly... barriers need to be broken down. You cannot have a permanent wall in a relationship. There needs progress in some form.

And that is a fair conclusion. You being the one moving there, would be like you're settling for less and the bigger contributor to put things in motion.

Might have been worth to just test his POV on moving to you. If he was completely against it, then I would assume things are very one-sided.

Ill-Inspector3071 OP t1_jaejude wrote on February 28, 2023 at 9:32 PM

From my understanding, it's more the fact he doesn't want to leave home. Also my work is in his city too, so it wouldn't make sense for him to move in my direction unfortunately. So in this case there seems to be no resolve :(