Submitted by ThrowRA_itsmenotyou t3_10t1eai in relationship_advice
Some of you asked for an update so here it is. This is hopefully the link to my first post; https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/10pbuh4/i_51m_have_to_breakup_with_newish_serious_gf_43f/
It's going to be short and sweet (well, maybe not so sweet). I worked out a plan to tell her everything at our next meeting (tonight). I had spoken with a counsellor and worked out a plan. I wrote her a letter and was going to read it to her in person. The letter explained my health situation and my plans going forward.
Long story short, she was able to sense that something was up during our conversations this week. Because I didn't want to just drop this ton of bricks on her unannounced, I gave her a heads up that we needed to talk when we met. Things went downhill from there. She assumed the worst because of her past and we ended up breaking things off on the phone earlier. When I said we, I meant she.
She has no idea about my health situation and I now have no plans to share this information with her.
I also would like to state for all the people saying I was not doing the right thing; my counsellor helped me see this isn't about right or wrong, it's about doing what's best for me.
Wishing you all peace and love.
ETA: It's clear that Reddit and I are not and have not been in agreement about i) my ending my relationship and ii) what has transpired around my ending it. I would pull out the old "Do not judge someone before you've walked a mile in their shoes." but I would never wish that onto anyone.
I don't regret my actions but I do regret posting the update.
The will be my last update, last response and last post to reddit. May you all find peace in your lives and don't be so quick to judge. Life is messy and very complicated.