Submitted by throwRAzUUq t3_11afkpe in relationship_advice
I dated him for a year, until he (unexpectedly) broke up with me last September. We've been good friends for years and we still remained friends afterwards. Unexpectedly, I learned he committed suicide last month. He od'ed on a strong sedative and lost his life. I was in total shock, gutted and devastated. Everyone who knew him were just as shocked. Sadly, in hindsight, I could now tell something was wrong. He exhibited some signs of unhappiness.
I have been mourning his tragic death for the past month. I contacted his family to return some of his belongings. The family now tell me that he wrote 2 notes before he died, one directly addressed to me. They are refusing to give me the letter for no apparent reason. They're just asking me to "respect their emotions", which I genuinely do. I am grieving as much as they are. I don't know if there's a protocol here but it seems to me they're going against his wishes. I want to give them their space to mourn, but I genuinely need that note. What do I do?
Edit. I want to clarify this: I asked them specifically if it's a bad note about me and my behavior. They said it's nothing like that at all and I shouldn't think that way.