Submitted by [deleted] t3_11bk81u in relationship_advice
We went to a couples massage last month and it was amazing (my first massage ever). It had me wanting more.
My birthday just happened so I treated myself to my second massage ever. I was at the gym this week and just finished a heavy lifting day so it was kind of a spur of the moment thought, so I just picked a place close to my house. I gave them a call and asked if they had any availability and they said yes, in 15 mins. So I drove on over.
It was literally in the center of my well-to-do town, it was nice when I walked in, so I had no qualms about anything weird happening. I specifically asked for a deep tissue massage. It was a 50s to 60s y/o Asian woman who was doing the massage.
When she has me roll over 45 mins in, I had a bit of an erection and she goes and jerks me off without asking or saying anything. Then she asks for my credit card again and charges me another $60 (it was $60 for 1 hour so now $120 total). I lasted like 20 seconds, it just all happened so fast.
I don't know even know how to process this. Why didn't I say no? Did I cheat? Was I assaulted? Is it some grey area between the two?
Anyways, it's been about 5 days now and I'm not sure how to tell my girlfriend. Text? Phone? Wait until we meet in person next week?