Submitted by throwra-ferdwd t3_11enifc in relationship_advice
Tldr; she is seeing him a lot more than she sees me now and he’s often over at her house and my son even called him “dada” which rubbed me the wrong way.
I really don’t want to come across as that one controlling guy that cuts his wife off from her friends. But I’ve just witnessed my son call another man “dada” and my wife did nothing but laugh. Her friend at least had the decency to realise he’d done wrong because he tensed up and looked at me in a panic as if he expected me to kick off on him. This makes me think that my wife has been talking badly about me and maybe calling me aggressive for the man to look scared.
I’ve been married to her for 3 almost for years now so I should expect her to stick up for me.
I feel like he’s spending more time with my son than I do as he’s always over and I work long hours. He works night shifts so during the day he’s almost always at my house and I come home to him being there. He’s constantly there doing something with my son and my son loves him which hurts me as I want my own bond with him and I feel like that’s been taken away from me.
My wife is pregnant again and I’ve told her I’ve been thinking of cutting my hours because I want to be there for my kids but she threw a fit because she needs the money so she can stay home with the kids because that’s better for them. I just want my kids to bond with me and not that man. She doesn’t seem to understand that parenting is a team and it’s almost like she doesn’t want to be involved. This has just made me realise that I need to be more involved than her guy best friend is and I don’t know how to peacefully go about that. Any advice?