jamicam t1_jeg1yf7 wrote on March 31, 2023 at 7:18 PM

This is something for your husband to work out with his colleague. If they are friendly at work, she may feel close to him as a friend and doesn't realize how her behavior is coming across to you. If it makes your husband uncomfortable, he should let her know, or start to distance himself from her at work, or whatever. Or maybe she is just socially awkward and doesn't understand personal boundaries.

If she asks you personal questions, don't answer them. Have an answer ready, like, "Oh, my husband and I don't discuss personal details about our relationship" and then change the topic.

LongjumpingAgency245 t1_jegduy5 wrote on March 31, 2023 at 8:38 PM

OP's husband should report her to HR.

jamicam t1_jegecr8 wrote on March 31, 2023 at 8:41 PM

Why? This isn't an HR issue. No need to go overboard here. The guy just needs to establish boundaries with her.

LongjumpingAgency245 t1_jegidpi wrote on March 31, 2023 at 9:08 PM

If she harasses him, he needs to report her. https://www.eeoc.gov/sexual-harassment#:~:text=Although%20the%20law%20doesn't,the%20victim%20being%20fired%20or

It doesn't matter that he is a male. Men can be sexually harassed. We are trained on this at work....at it doesn't matter if we are the recipient of the behavior. We are encouraged to report if we observe activity that makes us uncomfortable.

The BF shouldn't suffer through unwanted attention.

jamicam t1_jegjmur wrote on March 31, 2023 at 9:17 PM

There is nothing to say here that he is being sexually harrassed. What in the world?

You want him to go to HR and file a sexual harrassment charge because she asked him why he is so overprotective of his wife?

LOL yeah, sounds reasonable ...

LongjumpingAgency245 t1_jegkhq2 wrote on March 31, 2023 at 9:23 PM

I'm saying if it progresses.......... meaning she doesn't leave him alone and harasses him. Be aware and don't take shit.