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Kodiak2001x t1_je98o3c wrote

He is manipulating you. What you describe sounds terrible for you and it’s going to damage you and break you down. Please for your own sake, leave him. Trust me, this is not what a good relationship looks like.

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M0ti0nzz t1_je9a855 wrote

I know he is that’s the issue , but I’ve tried to leave twice and he just says I’m being a coward and need to face what I’ve done. The issue is I don’t think it’s that big of a deal we wasn’t together just talking. And he’s told all his friends and stuff, like he’s lied about alot of stuff and uses the suicide stuff also as a way I’ll stay and idk what to do it’s draining me and I’ve cut everyone else off

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Kodiak2001x t1_je9brd0 wrote

You did nothing wrong and if he wants to think you’re a coward he can. You know you aren’t.

You can’t control how he reacts, you can’t make him think something he doesn’t. All you can do is leave. His loss!

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Gosc101 t1_je9crfb wrote

He is toxic, and unhinged. If someone decides to guilt trip you into staying with them it is big sign to really leave.

If someone is blackmailing with unaliving himself threats, you paradoxically need to run away immediately, and cut all contact. Are you willing to give up your life for him? If "no", then don't do it. If he devudes to unalive himself it us own choice, and you are in no wsy responsible for that.

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M0ti0nzz t1_je9s205 wrote

I know , it’s just hard as I’m so kind hearted about that sort of stuff which he know. It’s also so hard as I live in a town with no one I know and he was my first person here and my friends was his friends before he turned everyone against me . I guess hes controlling me leaving me with no one and stuck with him , even though he doesn’t act like he wants me at all, sometimes I think he’s angry at me because he’s hiding stuff

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M0ti0nzz t1_jefhg8w wrote

UPDATE - I had a chat with him and he said I’ve ruined his life beyond repair , and how I’ve fucked him up so he can’t trust anyone again and started cutting and has mini heart attacks all the time .. I told him why would u stay with someone like that and he finally broke up with me and said the only reason hes breaking up with me is cuz i keep hinting at it and then said more names Bout me and said he needs a week to think and I ignored him

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