Time to make other living arrangements. Take a look at you financial options and see if you can afford your own place.

Until then maybe relocate to do you work at a library or cafe. I understand this is alot and seems like a jump but you didnt marry all them and as half of the relationship, you deserve half of the say with other living with you. You SO show you zero respect with this.

Let him play the victim. Start looking at your options unless he start working with you. You will see how he acts if he has to make a choice

Work to live a better life