My boyfriend (25M) "makes fun" of me (20F) A lot.

Submitted by iamgirraffe t3_1280gdi in relationship_advice

I am asking for advice about this. We've been dating for a little over three months. It's been going pretty well. There's just one thing that is a little concerning to me and I'm asking for advice if I should be worried about it or not. He "makes fun" of me a lot. I guess to explain it better, he'll make jokes about something I said, or a sound I make, etc. Little things, teasing me a lot. I've brought it up to him and asked why he does it so much, and he just says "I'm just messing with you." I don't know if this is something I should be worried about or not, or if it's too much, etc.

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UnsightlyFuzz t1_jegridt wrote

Just let him know it's not funny to you, and you want him to stop doing that. You may have to deliver this message several times. Make steady eye contact and say it in a firm voice.

If he doesn't get the message when you do that - several times if necessary - then he's mentally impaired and not worth your time.

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iamgirraffe OP t1_jegulw7 wrote

Thank you, I will try to communicate my frustrations with him more firmly. Don't think he thought I was actually upset the first time.

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iamgirraffe OP t1_jegubv5 wrote

Reddit isn't letting me see all the comments right now, but one from my notifications asked for more context but I can't reply, because well, I can't see the original comment. But for example, if I say something he'll like repeat it like he's trying to be me, like in a weird voice. Sometimes when I say things or tell him something he'll call me a goofy name, like "you're such a meatball." It's never really more that just small things like that, but it happens a lot.

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