I was wondering this too. Is she carrying some major resentment? Is she fed up with doing everything? The cooking, cleaning, laundry, keeping the in-laws happy, evening and morning child wrangling, etc? Do you only pay attention to her when you want something? Are you overly occupied with hobbies or video games? I think there needs to be a major sit down and get this all sorted out.

Son goes to daycare as we both work. She enjoys cooking so she will cook and I clean up after. Every night we clean up the house before bed, it’s never really messy