Life is too short to accept mediocre to bad sex. It’s such bullshit that so many young women especially feel like sex is for their partner, not for them, and just accept this inequitable nonsense. I had shitty sex like that where I was basically a human flesh light and my pleasure didn’t matter til I finally dated someone with some skill who cared about my pleasure too. Since then? I’ve still had some mediocre sex but even with a partner who was really trying? I ended things since we couldn’t get aligned in the bedroom.

Your partner isn’t even trying. At all. He’s insecure (no toys? What? He might like them too!), he won’t see a doctor or therapist for his SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION, he won’t pleasure you and doesn’t care about your pleasure.

Girl? If I (44F) could go back and tell my 16-25 YO self to DTMFA for the shitty sex, I would. So telling you—it’s okay to want to be sexually compatible.