Submitted by ThrowRAamithe t3_11fqdzo in relationship_advice
I (33F) have been with my boyfriend “Jake” (30M) for about 2 1/2 years. We met through a friend of mine from nursing school. We’ve been together ever since. He’s been friends with a woman named “Samantha” (21F) for a while, as they met at church. I was worried about her, as they were getting close, and she was very friendly with him and not the other males in the group. I brought up my concerns. He assured me that I had nothing to worry about, as they were only friends. It didn’t sit well with me, but I let the issue rest.
This past weekend, he told me that he was going in the RV on a “camping trip with his brother (24M) in West Virginia.” He told me not to worry about him, and I wanted to respect his quality time with his brother, so I didn’t bother calling or texting. I let have him his space and I trusted him. Plus, I do know for a fact that this particular area they went to has notoriously bad cell phone reception, so I didn’t question it any further. I didn’t hear from him at all until Monday morning when he told me he got home safe.
Well, I found out yesterday through some photos posted on Facebook, he went to Pittsburgh with Samantha and 2-3 “mutual friends” from the church group. His brother was nowhere to be seen. It looked like they rented a hotel room and the alcohol was plentiful. I called him and said that we need to talk. He invited me over to his apartment, I confronted him and threw the Facebook post in his face. He admitted it was all true. He admitted he lied. He was going to tell me soon he claimed. I’m so pissed at him and I want to slap him for lying (and probably cheating). He swears nothing happened, but I have no reason to believe that. I can’t say that I was completely blindsided by this, but I don’t feel that I can trust him. I dumped him right then and there. But now he wants me back. He’s begging for forgiveness and is “desperate for a second chance.” Should I cave in and give him another chance?
TL;DR - I broke up with my boyfriend because he went on a trip with the woman he told me not to worry about. Did I do the right thing and does he deserve another chance?
EDIT: I posted an update.