Submitted by BookSelect280 t3_125miwd in relationship_advice
So for some backstory I used to be on birth control but I found out more about the side effects, links to depression and overall I hated the fact I had to inconvenience myself every day just so a guy could get more pleasure out of sex and not use protection, which would also make me at risk of STDs. So I stopped taking it, this was a huge step in me loving myself more and self respect because no longer was I putting my needs below someone else and it was a step in empowering my own body and taking control over myself again and not altering my hormones for a guys approval.
So I stopped taking them and it's a very strict boundary I have up that I've told this guy about before but I guess he forgot. We were talking tonight and he starts asking me why I'm not on birth control, I tell him my reasons and his argument is that condoms are more expensive, I told him if my vagina isn't worth £1 or less then you can go find someone else. He then continues to argue that birth control is free, convenient, I tell him about the side effects and he's like nah they're not that bad. So now I feel very upset that he's continuing to try to convince me and that I need to even justify my choice about my own body to him.
I told him sex is about more than pleasure and he asks me what it's about then which tells me that in his mind it is about just pleasure, which is fair to him but I thought it was about a lot more than that, overall I feel like he's shown he doesn't respect me at all and I'm considering cutting communication with him despite him not understanding where he crossed the line.
EDIT: I just blocked him, it was extremely hard for me having been in an abusive relationship before I'm so quick to accept the blame and assume I'm overreacting but I knew I had to do this to prove to myself that I've healed and that I'm mature enough to end something that is toxic for me regardless of the pain, it's gonna be rough because losing people had always been tough for me, but thank you to everyone for telling me your opinions and affirming that I'm not as crazy as I think I am.