Submitted by [deleted] t3_126ho3u in relationship_advice
Hi all, using a throwaway for reasons. Would like some advice from everyone if possible. I (38M) saw some texts between my fiancée (38F) and a colleague of hers (M age unknown). My partner was ending multiple texts via WhatsApp with "my love" and the “😘❤️” and the "❤️" emojis on multiple of his texts when they where discussing when to meet up for lunch etc.
We have been dating for 4 years and I proposed 2 years ago, we are currently planning our wedding.
Subsequently, last night my fiancée asked if the work colleague could stay a few nights a week at ours as he's just gone through a breakup and the commute to work every day is long and we live close to her work, just until he finds another place to stay. Around 2 nights a week.
Unaware I'd seen those messages - I wasn't prying he's messages popped up as I was using her phone to track an Amazon delivery to our house - I questioned why that would be appropriate. Her immediate response was that he was "gay" and I would get along with him as he's a nerd like me, and I have nothing to worry about.
Unsure how to proceed, but gather a frank conversation is in order and I’ll need to say I’ve seen those messages and it make me uncomfortable?
Thanks in advance!