Submitted by throwraitsmehi t3_126ihxy in relationship_advice
TL;DR
Feeling stuck that I’ve not told my girlfriend about another girl before we’d met in person.
My girlfriend and I have been in a very happy, healthy relationship for 8 months. It feels perfect, until I remember there’s something I’ve not told her. It’s starting to ruin everything for me and make me think I’m just a fraud who has built a relationship on a lie.
We met on a dating app and at the point of matching I already had a date lined up with another girl who I’d met in a bar the week before. I went on that date after a few days of chatting to my now girlfriend and I ended up sleeping with that girl. On the night of the date, I told my now girlfriend (who I’d been chatting to on the app for a few days) that I was going out with friends and wouldn’t be able to talk on the app. The day after sleeping with the other girl I knew I didn’t want to see her again and confirmed a date with my now girlfriend for the following week. We hit it off and it’s been a whirlwind romance ever since. The problem I have is I’m now feeling guilt for lying to her on the app and sleeping with another girl while we were chatting. I feel like if I bring this up now it would cause hurt but I’m worried that I’ve misrepresented myself by never mentioning this before (she literally has no idea) and I worry that if I don’t tell her now it’ll come out later and be even more confusing/devastating.