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peakpenguins t1_iujhsjc wrote

Tough situation, but to be honest I feel like your mom is a little old to be needing to celebrate on her birthday knowing that you're a young adult with your own life and it's a major holiday. Maybe in the future you could do something with your mom a few days earlier/later? Or I guess alternate years with your mom/boyfriend if it really comes to that.

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lalasbakery OP t1_iujpfyw wrote

To me the fact that it's a holiday doesn't matter much. Spending it with friends is not something that I want to do. I place more importance on their birthdays and since my entire extended family gets together on the 31st they take the opportunity to celebrate my mom's birthday. I am also very close to my mom, we have a really good relationship.

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peakpenguins t1_iujqg7d wrote

I get it, but you also now have a boyfriend who may put importance on his birthday and the holiday, so you have to figure out how to juggle things in a way that doesn't make him feel less important.

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