DehDani t1_iui7rb5 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 3:05 PM

He said "I dread coming home to you"?

What a horrible thing to say to your partner. Sounds like he badly wants out, but it too scared to actually do it.

I hope you can take the time to heal. I was dumped after 6 years and it was very difficult, but I'm doing well now a few years later.

pearlyquartz t1_iujhwjb wrote on October 31, 2022 at 8:13 PM

It's not a horrible thing, it's an honest thing. Had he insulted her that would've been something else, but if your partner says that, and you don't dig deeper to find out what's going on, then you really ARE horrible to come to.
Op sounds clingy, like unhealthily clingy.

DehDani t1_iujqo2r wrote on October 31, 2022 at 9:14 PM

Nah...if someone has issues in a relationship, it's up to them to fully spell out the issues. And if you love someone, then you do it in a way that's honest and still kind.

pearlyquartz t1_iujy2ky wrote on October 31, 2022 at 10:08 PM

Can we let humans be human and have human emotions?? She sounds in denial, which makes me think this is ver go to attitude when conflict arises. For someone to get to the point of saying what he said it's gotta take enduring a lot. It's a normal response if her attitude is anything to go by.